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Not sure about this - please advise!

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Dozeyland · 19/01/2011 16:25

So 12 week old DD breast feeds on demand in the day, and evening. normally about 2-3 hours apart with some snacky feeds too if she wants...

so i try to stock her up throughout the day and evening. she was doing 11-4ish sleep but now she's change and going to sleep on her own by about 10/10:30.

what i need advice on is:

last night i fed DD at 10:40, fell asleep at 11, then she stirred at about 3:40, but wasn't awake? or crying, just fidgety, so i just popped her dummy in and she stirred a bit then slept until 5:40am then had a winge so i fed her.

I felt terrible this morning as *up until last night i have been feeding her normally about 2 and 5ish if she stirs not wakes...also change her nappy because she drenches them but last night i didnt util 5:40

if this makes sense at all can you advise what you think?

so tonight she will probably have various feeds until 10:30pm ish, then sleep until early hours then want a feed, but do i wait until she wakes, or keep feeding when she stirs? or am i building bad bridges for myself? i dont mind feeding her, but the thing is - she doesnt feed a lot in the early am, just a bit then falls back to sleep?

SIL said just leave her for a bit if shes stirring, dont just assume shes hungry otherwise DD will expect to be fed any time she stirs?

help Confused

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MoonUnitAlpha · 19/01/2011 16:29

I think you're overthinking it!

You're not going to cause bad habits whatever you do. If she will go back to sleep with a dummy then she's not hungry - if she wants to be fed she'll let you know :)

wonderstuff · 19/01/2011 16:29

If she goes back to sleep with a dummy at night I would do that, I also only change pooy nappies at night.

japhrimel · 19/01/2011 16:40

2 common issues identified in 'the no cry sleep solution' are actually feeding and changing the baby before they really needit. So i wouldn't worry tbh.

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Dozeyland · 19/01/2011 18:40

I only change her nappy if its heavy, not pooey.. I just didn't know if me not giving her that extra feed will hinder her or affect my supply?
I don't mind feeding her twice, just wasn't sure if me keep feeding when she's only stirring in her sleep and not awake, would I be disturbing her etc

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ZimboMum · 19/01/2011 18:42

My 8 week old DS is EBF and also does 3 to 3 1/2 hours between night time feeds. One night we had 6 hours and of course mummy was awake after 3 1/2 hours wondering why and if he was okay, etc Grin

Sometimes if he's just stirring after two or so hours but not asking for food then a rock of his moses basket will put him back to sleep for an hour or so and keeps his 'routine' a bit better, IYSWIM. Other times it won't work and he'll want his feed earlier. We just go with the flow :)

Oh and we don't have the option of only changing pooey nappies at night - they're ALWAYS pooey :)

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Dozeyland · 19/01/2011 18:42

Sorry if I've not explained it right?

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MoonUnitAlpha · 19/01/2011 18:43

If she's not asking for a feed then I wouldn't worry - at 12 weeks your supply is well established and she's feeding lots in the day.

wonderstuff · 19/01/2011 19:57

No it won't affect your supply, if she goes through a growth spurt and needs more she'll start feeding more frequently and quickly increase it, dead clever Smile
Sounds like you are doing brilliantly, trust your instincts and as long as she is happy and gaining weight shes doing fine.
I was worried about supply when I went back to work when mine was 9mo, I was able to feed her morning, night and all the time during my days off Hmm no problem at all, is quite amazing how robust the whole breast milk thing is once its established

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Dozeyland · 19/01/2011 23:00

Do you feed your DC's when they're only stirring?

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MoonUnitAlpha · 19/01/2011 23:06

I don't - I realised a few weeks in that actually he's just a noisy sleeper and I was disturbing him more by feeding at every squeak.

wonderstuff · 19/01/2011 23:22

I try a dummy twice, if he doesn't settle after that I feed.

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Dozeyland · 20/01/2011 10:22

hats what i thought that i was disturbing her probably as i was feeding her twice and changing her bum twice when she wasnt awake, just stirred..........

the past 2 nights shes done 11-5:30 (but having a stir around 3:30) so i put dummy in at 3:30, but she spat it out as was still asleep just fidgety. so i fed her at 5:30, then she slept until 9:30am...fed again then.

didnt change her nappy til 9:30 am, because she went 7ish hours in the night without a feed, is this ok at 12 wks? sounds silly i know!

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MoonUnitAlpha · 20/01/2011 14:28

It's fine! Honestly, enjoy it now before the 4 month sleep regression messes it up.

Cosmosis · 20/01/2011 17:39

If she will go off with a dummy she's not hungry imo, so always try that first. She'll let you know if it's hunger!

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