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21 months - I want to stop now - best advice on how to do it please?!

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pipkin35 · 17/01/2011 10:20

BF my DD who is nearly 22 months. Sleeps in our room. In the AM, sometimes she has boob, sometimes not - if one of us can hustle her into the living room quick enough then she'll have a better breakfast etc...
She might ask for it in the day if I'm at home, but not often.

Evenings - I BF her lying on our double bed before putting her in the cot. She has gone to bed without it once or twice if I've been out and OH has given her a beaker of milk.

Just wondering what's the 'easiest' approach? Stop altogether all at once? Cut out one? What about if she's still upset/asks for it in the day? I really don't want to confuse or upset her. She's not able to be 'distracted' away from the issue, very stubborn and speaking alot.

TBH - it's the evening feed that's starting to bug me and i really don't want to 'sully' the memory of BF. She lolls over it and bites and messes about moving around so much (including trying to stand up!) that it's quite painful...But, am concerned if I put her to bed she'll still want and expect 'booby'. If OH puts her to bed, is that a better idea? And should he still offer her a beaker of milk, or should we cut that out?
Opinions welcomed please!

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 17/01/2011 12:26

pipkin would you still feel the same about stopping if DD was better behaved during the last feed?

As for stopping, could she be whisked downstairs each morning for breakfast instead of bfing?

In the evening could you go out for a few evenings and DH do bedtime with a beaker of milk?

In the day I would try "don't offer and don't refuse" so if she asks for it just give it. I've heard this works for some.

However, I'm not trained, have you thought of ringing one of the Bfing Helplines?

JiltedJohnsJulie · 18/01/2011 19:37

How are you getting on now pipkin? Have you got a plan of action yet?

pipkin35 · 19/01/2011 09:51

Thanks for asking Jilted...Gonna do some more research on this, but does anyone else please have any advice?

We're in a flat so whisking downstairs doesn't happen. This morning, when she woke, OH took her into the living room to give her breakfast but she kept coming into the shower and wailing "I need booby!" which was quite sad really...;(
Just unsure whether to cut down gradually or go completely cold turkey?
Feel bad cos OH puts DS to bed and he's 3 and completely into daddy's routine and if I stop BF then he'll be putting DD to bed too. I suppose after a while - how long?! - after stopping BF she won't expect/associate me with boob anymore and I should be able to go back to putting her to bed?!
Maybe if I'm unsure then I shouldn't stop?!
ANYONE?!

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