Good God I am so, so TIRED

[notnowbernard]

DS was up EVERY SINGLE HOUR of last night from 9.30pm. No exaggeration. The longest he slept for in a row was 1hr 20mins

He wouldn't settle without a BF, except on 1 occasion

Now, I am happy to feed in the night, but every hour?!

He is 5m, btw

We already co-sleep. I have 2 other DC, I need some sleep!

Rant over, am sure there are many more of you in the same boat

notnow just wanted to say I really feel for you. DC1 was a terrible sleeper and I used to think I would go insane with sleep deprivation, and that was with just 1DC.

If I say he will start weaning soon, will that help?

Thankyou

Yes, weaning... but it's such small amounts initially I can't see it making a difference

TBH it's more the inability to get himself back to sleep that's the issue atm

Sorry, yes you are probably right but just wanted to offer you a small crumb of hope

Could anyone else try to settle him?

Only a boob will do, it seems...

Oh those nights are awful :( We've had a few. Do they happen often?

Oh dear, I do feel for you, and have had a few of those nights myself of late.

You are already co-sleeping? Can you latch on half asleep and both drift off quickly? I sometimes can and other times DD insists I sit up.

I hope the sleep improves soon!

How often? EVERY night

I sleep lying down (it's the reason I started co-sleeping, to minimise the disruption)

So I do drift off back to sleep only to be woken 1HR later by screaming DS

I'm just having a rant, really... I don't think I can/want to do anything differently it's just a bit pants at the time, as you know

Thanks for replying

Poor you! We had this with DD2 at a similar age, I was wokring full time and I just could not hack it.

I put her in her cot, in her room and patted her tummy but did not feed. First night 1 hr, 2nd night 30 mins 3rd night 5 mins and now sleeps 10 hours a night. I know its not for everyone.

She is a much happier baby though and I can function again

Ah Bernard - that's really tough. Ds (dc2) will be five months next week. He has recently gone through a phase of feeding regularly throughout the night. We too, were co-sleeping. I was a nervous wreck. In the end I had to stop the co-sleeping. Dh puts ds back in his cot when he has finished feeding.

At the moment he sleeps 10-4.30am, feeds and then wakes up again at 6.30. Vast improvement. I couldn't have done it on my own. Dh putting ds back in his cot and dealing with any subsequent fretting (as ds obviously isn't hungry) made the process possible.

I still feel like crap at the moment because I have been ill for over a month. Swine flu I think or a succession of viruses.

Do your other children go to bed later than 9:30pm?

Does your dh come home at 9:30?

If both of these are true then you're stuffed. If either are not true then you just need to go to bed earlier and ride through the phase.

Oh, and I too feed lying down. Ds sleeps on a small cellular blanket and I take him in beside me with the blanket and then when he has fallen asleep dh lifts him with the blanket back into his cot. Prevents being put back onto a cold surface IYSWIM.

Also, try to offer every half hour during the day. And DON'T offer anything other than milk otherwise he'll have to top up with the calories from the milk at nigh when there are no distractions etc.

Unless you're weaning him on dairy milk or double cream, he's going to demand those calories he loses out on by eating carrot or whatever, overnight.

Rant away NNB, sleep deprivation is the pits.

Phase, passing and all that.

Must admit your exhausted last post made me smirk: You "sleep lying down" - presume you bf whilst you're there

If it's any consolation I sleep most of the night sitting up at the moment, jiggling DS2 between 2 hourly bf.

I'm dreaming of 3 or 4 hours unbroken sleep, hope you get some soon too

I'm just reading "the no cry sleep solution" by Elizabeth Pantley and it seems pretty good fwiw.

NNB not that it helps - but me too! Every hour, every night..... sympathy x

Actually yes - good point japhrimel. She's an excellent author. Well worth a try. I started it when DS2 was going through that phase but then he came out of it and went back to about twice a night (I say about, as we also co-sleep and I've certainly woken to find him helping himself ) which is perfectly manageable, especially as I latch half asleep and go straight off again.

Sleep deprivation is the pits. I hope it improves soon :(

Notnow - me too. It sucks. I am about to drop dead. My DS is 16 weeks so classic 4-month sleep regression.

I feel your pain. Hope things improve soon.

Thankyou for all your lovely posts

Yes, sleep deprivation is the pits

I have fully accepted this is a phase I need to ride out - my other 2 were pretty crap at this age, too

Just nice to offload it a bit on here - I don't want to come across like i'm moaning about DS in RL, because he is gorge and we are all enjoying him loads

ATM there is no possibilty of 'catching up' on sleep. The DC are up until 7-7.30, DP gets in 6ish at the earliest but 8 - 9pm not uncommon either

me too- i would post more, but am too tired- may try later. my sympathy to you- it's tough, to say the least. xx