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Infant feeding

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Breastfeeding and narrow minded people....ANGRY

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mummysmilk · 04/10/2005 21:02

Im soooooooooooooo pissed off! Started a nursing programme at uni last week and was having a conversation about teething yesterday! Anyway one lady said 'babies should be born with teeth and gums covering them that fall off later cos you cant breastfeed when babies have teeth' I replied with 'well my baby has 7 teeth and Im still feeding him'! 'How old is your baby she said?' '10 months', she looked at me in horror so I started giving her all the facts about the benefits of feeding past 6 months, a year etc! Only for her to say she thought it was 'DISGUSTING' to breastfeed past 6months She said ' I think its wrong when a baby can choose which tit they want to suck on' that was it, I was off on one then!!!!! How can she be training as a nurse with such a narrow mind and ignorance? It makes me so angry when people are like that especially health professionals ( or people becoming health professionals) Sorry but I had to get this off my chest and actually I feel hurt as well as angry. Now when she sees me she looks at me in disgust!

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hunkerpumpkin · 04/10/2005 21:05

People will post that it's her right to hold that opinion...well, that's as maybe, but there are plenty of ignorant opinions it's not definitely right to hold (race/gender and disability-related ones, to name a few) so she bloody well shouldn't think like this.

HRHQoQ · 04/10/2005 21:07

that's appaling

spidermama · 04/10/2005 21:09

Sill Moo.
Alas it's a commonly held view.
I pity people like her. That may sound smug and patronising, but hand on heart I do.

lockets · 04/10/2005 21:09

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mummysmilk · 04/10/2005 21:14

I agree she has a right to her own opinion but Ive never had anyone be so disgusted by it before!Well maybe MIL but she doesnt like anything I do!!!!This women is going to be a nurse so personally I think she should be a little more open minded, clued up and keep her opinions to herself.She wont be able to go shouting her views about if she sees a patient doing something she doesnt like! There Im starting to feel a bit calmer now

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Caligula · 04/10/2005 21:18

She has a perfect right to that opinion, just as others have the perfect right to believe that the world is flat.

Parp!

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mummysmilk · 04/10/2005 21:21

Lockets I did correct her when she used that expression! I said 'I think you'll find the word tit is normally used sexually and breastfeeding is not at all sexual' I think that was probably the thing that shocked me the most and upset me! She definately looks at me in disgust. I think maybe my original post is confusing, she breastfed for 3 months and my DS is 10 months. I was quite shocked that she was saying all of this when she has breastfed her children!

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Buddhamummy · 04/10/2005 21:48

MM, I remember when i started my nursing course a woman stood up in a lecture about palliative care and said that everyone with aids was being punished by god and that was it, she would have no sympathy for them and would refuse to nurse them.i was so shocked that she wanted to be a nurse! thankfully she didnt stay the course! but it is quite an eye opener those first few weeks, realising that some really unsuited people are on the course.good luck with your studies.

Socci · 04/10/2005 21:51

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paolosgirl · 04/10/2005 21:54

We meet a lot of nurses through our dept, and some of them are . What on earth makes some of them think that they have the compassion, or common sense, or intelligence, or communication skills to nurse is a mystery.

Hopefully your nursery programme will deal with breastfeeding in more depth later, and her views will be challenged.

QueenVictoria · 04/10/2005 21:59

Have to say - watching my mum b/feed my youngest brother up to the age of 18 mths used to make me cringe. But i was 8 at the time. Hope you let me off .

People are entitled to their opinions and to make their own choices based on those opinions but dont have the right to make you feel bad because of it.

Parp indeed - i am still b/feeding my 6 mth old and probably will until his teeth come through (he "bites" already! )

weesaidie · 04/10/2005 22:18

That is terrible. Terrible.

I breastfed til 10 months and my dd didn't have any teeth til about a yr old! Does that mean I am allowed?

Honestly.

misdee · 04/10/2005 22:19

my dd3 cut her 1st teeth at 3months old. she is now 7months and i am still breastfeeding her.

hatstand · 04/10/2005 22:25

grrrrrrrrr. you'll have to engineer a way to embarass her when/if you cover infant/maternal health etc. or perhaps if you cover stuff on people skills, diplomacy etc. I'm sure a well worded question to your lecturer could illicit a reply that will make her feel small and make her realise she can't be a good nurse and have such a derogatory attitude to other people's entirely legitimate health-related choices

spookymoo · 04/10/2005 22:28

Oi, spidermama - less of the silly moo, thankyou. She is though - I hope she keeps her deranged views to herself once qualified.

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mummysmilk · 05/10/2005 13:45

hatstand we cover maternal health next year so I have a while to plan something

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