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think I'm ready stop

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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 09/01/2011 10:57

i just don't want to do it anymore. ds usually only feeds first thing in the morning now but, and this sounds awful, it annoys me. i want to push him away when he comes to feed, i just don't want to do it. i always thought i he would just self wean but i am finding myself irritated by it now. i feel bad.

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 09/01/2011 10:58

How old is your DS ILove?

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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 09/01/2011 11:00

19 months.

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 09/01/2011 11:07

Don't really know why I asked that ILove as I haven't really got any advice Blush. Can remeber feeling like that when DS was about that age and it did get better. He finally weaned at 2.8 but needed some persuasion to do it.

Hopefully you will get someone along soon who knows a bit more.

missmehalia · 09/01/2011 11:16

Am right where you are! DD (15 months) would still have it on the hour, every hour if she could. Don't know how to stop her, she eats loads of other things. Must make time to read some info on weaning on here..

RubyBuckleberry · 09/01/2011 11:19

Hi ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo, we meet again Grin. Its up to you dude ;) It sounds like you might be ready and there might be a side of him that is ready. The morning feed should be fairly easy to stop - just get up and go straight into a nice breakfast or some warm/cold (however he likes it) cow's milk in a cup with a cuddle (in a different place maybe). He might ask but you could say the milk is 'gone' or 'asleep' - whatever he understands. Well done for feeding him for so long. Sterling effort Smile.

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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 09/01/2011 13:54

yeah, I'm thinking it shouldn't be too hard to miss out the feed. how long do you think it would be before he stopped trying? and how long would it be before the milk dries up?

it's the guilt I'm finding hard. i know he still takes comfort from it and i don't want to be taking taht away if he isn't ready, but I'm just finding it really, i dont know, not nice anymore, i just don't want him doing it. i feel terrible for thinking this. i have only felt like thise for a few days. maybe it will pass?

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TheProvincialLady · 09/01/2011 13:59

If you feel bad and think that your irritation might pass, then you could hold off a few days and see what happens. Has it coincided with ovulation/period, as I find those times a bit irritating sometimes(feeding DS2 I mean, although in the general sense tooGrin).

But if you are ready to stop then it is fine, and you have nothing to feel guilty about. Change the routine and distract, offer food and drink and lots of cuddles. He is a lucky boy to have fed this long, most don't get anything like as long.

TheProvincialLady · 09/01/2011 14:00

BTW the milk could dry up in a few days or it might take longer. You might need to express a little to keep comfortable, though obviously this will prolong lactation slightly.

As to how long until he stops asking....how long is a piece of string?

PacificDogwood · 09/01/2011 14:00

ILove, maybe how you feel will pass, maybe not - either way, what a phantastic achievement to have fed him to this age, respect Grin!

If you decide to stop, it might surprise you how easy it can be: I stopped the last feed with DS3 when he was 14 months old (at that point he only had 1 feed at bedtime) because I had had enough, and he never ever asked for another one Shock. To my great surprise... I was even a bit hurt Blush. My name is PD and I am a silly bint...

I spoke to some friends recently who fed their DC to between 2 and 3 years of age and they all agreed that there seems to be a 'window' of opportunity to do it easily and with them forgetting about boobs quickly between 12 and 18 months. No idea whether that is true and yes, I do know about the WHO guidelines about feeding to 2 and beyond. Personally, I could not hack that and am planning on stopping again some time after DS4's 1st birthday.

Good luck whatever you decide. Smile

RhinestoneCowgirl · 09/01/2011 14:06

Between 18months and 2yrs DS was having 1 feed a day - in bed in the morning. He stopped having it about a week before his 2nd birthday - I was pg tho, but wouldn't recommend that as a weaning technique Wink.

You may find it surprisingly easy to drop the feed, lots of distraction in the morning, straight down to breakfast etc. TBH the main reason I carried on with that feed was that DS was an early riser and it got me a bit more dozing time.

I now have a DD who has just turned 2yrs and is still feeding quite a lot, and I admit I do go through periods where I feel intensely irritated by the whole thing.

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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 09/01/2011 14:08

yes i am ovulating! it could just be me being irratable. i think i will see how i feel each day as it comes and if the feeling persists then call it a day.

thank you all for the advice Smile

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twoboots · 09/01/2011 14:18

I find that distraction helps so much, if i'm seen to be busy and dd (2.5) is entertained otherwise then she seems to forget.

Longest we have gone without was 2 weeks, then she was quite poorly and fed about 6 times over 2 days.

We are now down to about once a week, i get more irriated by the constant hands down my top, which is just a comfort thing.

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