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I don't want to stop, but honestly this baby is trying me to the limit!

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Bumperlicious · 03/01/2011 23:36

3 month old DD2 doesn't sleep in the evenings, never has. She went through a few weeks of sleeping 12 till 7.30, that was great. It didn't last.

She goes down at 11.30 at the earliest, sometimes not till 2am. She wakes up usually between 5 and 6, occasionally earlier, very rarely later.

I so pissed of at not having an evening, she usually just feeds on an off, I try and put her down when she falls asleep but at most she will sleep for an hour once moved, if at all, usually never. Last 3 nights we have actively tried getting her down earlier, from 6, then keeping her upstairs, trying to not get her up this has resulted in either DD2 yelling for 45 minutes in her hammock being bounced or me just stuck the whole night up stairs. This is complicated by the fact that she is fussing at the breast often at the moment, wanting to feed but not able to for whatever reason, I thought it was lack of let down, but it doesn't seem to be exclusively that.

I'm fucked off with having no evening and being up till 1am most nights. I can cope with one. I can't cope with both. I'm really really pissed off with the whole thing. I don't want to stop breastfeeding (though DH would like me too because this is causing so much stress) but honestly, this is pushing me to the limit.

It is 11.30 and she has been awake since 4pm except for the brief half hour she slept in my arms twice, until I had the audacity to try to move her. She is currently yelling on the sofa, refusing to feed and refusing to sleep.

I'm not going to get to bed before midnight :(

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piprabbit · 03/01/2011 23:41

Sounds horrendous for you, OP.

Is there any sign that she might be teething? I think babies can find it very uncomfortable as the teeth move into position, even if it is weeks and months before they actually cut through.

Do her gums feel at all swollen, or does she flinch or react if you run your finger over her gums?

Bumperlicious · 03/01/2011 23:53

don't think it is teething. have a feeling it is over tiredness, but it's not through want of trying :(

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PacificDogwood · 03/01/2011 23:54

No advice, just sympathies. My DS was like this. Nothing we tried made a difference, it was hideous and the lack of evenings minus baby was really heard to bear. He grew out of it in the end. He is still a bad sleeper but does go down around 8.

Repeat after me: this too shall pass, this too shall pass, this too shall pass, this too shall pass...

In the meantime, be kind to yourself and just keep going. The fact that you are breastfeeding has likely nothing to do with her sleep if my previous kids' behaviour is anything to go by.

?consider a sling
?can you rope anybody in to give you a couple of hours off
?can you go to bed with her, just to get a rest yourself

Massive sympathies, like I said, it is crap while it lasts, but won't last forever.

tattycoram · 04/01/2011 00:01

Bumper Sad it is hard isn't it. I think our babies are about the same age. Mine is still awake next to me on the bed and I am desperate to go to sleep. He eats and pukes and then is starving again, my nipples are really bloody sore atm. Sympathies

Bumperlicious · 04/01/2011 00:16

Thanks for the replies. We do have a sling but that doesn't really solve the problem of getting break, though I suppose it may be a way of getting her used to sleeping in the evenings.

the thing is the one time she did go down in the evenings she added a special 2.30 wake up, just to mix it up a little, so I think she must need the milk. just seems that no matter what time we start she won't go down before 11.30.

have finally got her to actually feed so it is just a case of waiting for her to drop off deep enough to move her.

it's causing such a lot of stress between me and dh. he blames breastfeeding, i resent him for not being tied to the baby (though he'd happily bottle feed her, but she has refused until recently. however she has taken one twice now and he is going have her downstair and feed her in the morning - or attempt to any, no doubt i will be woken buy sore boobs and punished with blocked ducts but i just need a break).

anyway, i just needed to vent, it just feels never ending and the tiredness make my day crap. i'm sick of being stuck upstiars trying desperately to get her off to sleep :(

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Bumperlicious · 04/01/2011 00:16

btw, sory about your nipples tatty!

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PenguinArmy · 04/01/2011 01:58

Nothing wrong with once you've fed her, give her to DH for a couple hours. Send him out on a walk in pram/sling and you get a couple of hours kip.

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