DH not supportive of breastfeeding

[susie100]

Morning!
Quick question on behalf of a vrey dear friend who is 35 weeks. Her DH is a lovely chap but does not really 'get' why breastfeeding is important.

He said this weekend that he can see the benefits of formula as the mother gets a break, dad gets to do a feed and is not 'pushed out'. I breasfed both dds but find myself unable to really articulate the benefits other than health benefits etc etc

Can I point him in the direction of anything seopcifically aimed at men? They are not doing NCT.

My DH was not that helpful saying he felt like a 'spare part' for the first 6 weeks (death stares across the table) although he was supportive at the time.

I would appreciate any pointers as my friend is very keen to breastfeed and I know it will be a lot easier if her DH is supportive.

I think this is coming from ignorance rather than anything more sinister or perceived ownership of her breasts etc etc
Thanks

DH will tell you that the following reasons are why he loves me BF:

No getting up at night, and if he does wake with me (rare) at least I'm not crashing about sorting out bottles.

No washing bottles. We are so lazy for this, if I have to express a feed it can be days until everything is cleaned and sterilised.

We can go out and be spontaneous. If a quick pop to the shops turns into lunch at a restaurant and a walk down the beach, I will always have enough food with me for the baby.

Less stuff to carry about with us. He always ends up carrying the bag while I carry the baby.

Pleasant smelling nappies, the first time he smelled a FF nappy (not changing it, just a baby in the same room!) he nearly retched.

It's free, which means more money for fun stuff.

I would say this: If you went to a restaurant, and they had your favourite dish in 2 ways, one is home cooked, best ingredients, custom to your requirements, will appear instantly in front of you when you order, will immunise you against various infections and is free, the other is a microwave meal you have to wait and pay for, which would you choose? It's a no brainer really.

Thanks for withdrawing, mumofoneplusbump.

Now I am going to withdraw my reference to it, and maybe you other posters will do the same, inc cardamom, which more or less repeats it :)

sorry really didn't mean to cause offence but hands up, stupid thoughtless quick posting while head was elsewhere. Sincere apologies to all.

sorry - back from lunch! how do I withdraw....? [incompetent face]

'report' your own post, cardomom, and then say why you are doing it in the box.

And the lovely people at MN Towers whisk it away :)

(you 'report' by clicking 'report' on the right above each post)

ta! [less incompetent face]

My DH was also very anti-breastfeeding and I think still is, but I thought a couple of his comments over the past 4 weeks may be of interest.
We ended up doing a lot of ebm feeds due to latching issues, after a couple of days he declared 'feeding is boring as you just sit there' he actually prefers changing nappies as there's more to do!
Now we've managed to get DS back on breast, there's some definite glee as he hands screaming hungry baby back to me, saying 'not something I can help with'. He on the other hand gets to doze with and spend a lot of quality happy time with DS without the pressures of feeding.

He's another one who has been very supportive of me and my decisions, but I think will always see all the talk of bf advantages as NHS propaganda.