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Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

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still b,feeding at 17months

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jenk1 · 25/09/2005 09:18

took dd to the doctor the other day and when i mentioned that i was b/feeding he said "what still?" that child should be on more solids surely?

Well i felt shocked, my dd is allergic to all dairy,soya,wheat,gluten etc and he KNOWS this.

talk about making someone feel they are doing the wrong thing.

I had planned on feeding her until she 2 as that is what the WHO recommends and lets face it she cant have anything else and wont touch nutramigen with a bargepole.

i came away feeling quite upset and have been having a niggling voice telling me perhaps its time to give up ever since even though she only gets fed at the morning and night i know im doing the right thing just needed to rant-sorry!

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suzywong · 25/09/2005 09:20

your gp is an a4se

you keep it up for as long as it suits you both!

frannyf · 25/09/2005 09:24

Aww, jenk, that's rotten. You are doing a great thing for your daughter - how lucky she is to have all the benefits that breastfeeding brings for so long! Did you see my thread the other day? Ds is 2.5 years old and still bf, and my doctor asked if he had solids yet!!! They just don't get it, bless them, it is their ignorance unfortunately.

Have a read here when you need a boost - I have bookmarked this page and look at is whenever I feel discouraged or belittled by someone. Breastfeeding IS the best for you and your daughter, especially in your situation. Well done on giving her what she needs!

chatee · 25/09/2005 09:37

well done to you jenk1, i think what you are doing for your daughter is wonderful and wish that when i had my dd(5 years ago)i had known where to look for support, dd was born 7 weeks prem, struggled to b/feed from day 1, infact struggled to feed full stop, i was discharged from hospitak with dd after 2.5weeks and basically had NO support, she was rushed back in at 15 weeks(4 weeks after i had stopped giving her ebm)failure to thrive/dehydrated and was then found to be dairy/lactose intolerant-she still is!
with ds(now 20 months and still b/fed 3 or 4x daily)i had found the support of mumsnet and feel so hard done by for my dd so am determined to keep on going until ds is ready to give up...
Ignore anyone that tries to undermine you and your confidence YOU KNOW BETTER

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jenk1 · 25/09/2005 12:09

thanks for that link franny ive bookmarked it too,
im glad youve managed to carry on feeding your ds chatee.

its nice just to talk to other mums who are in the same situation and have shown how they deal with criticism

thanks

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trinityrocks · 25/09/2005 18:51

your gp needs shooting, well done to you jenk, do what feels right for the both of you

likklemum · 26/09/2005 02:15

Came on this topic site because of my experience yesterday. I was at a bbq and started to breast feed DS (5months). Another woman did a double take and then said 'Oh God! For a minute there, I thought you were breastfeeding!' when I told her I was, I dont think she heard me coz then she said 'I just thought you whopped your tits out at the table!'. Obviously, my friends and me were all trying to explain to her that I was before she said anything else, coz she was actually quite a nice person. when she realsied her faux-pas, she said sorry and just that she didn't expect an older baby to be breast feeding. 5months? Older baby? Since then, I have been feeling similar to you jenk1. Deep down, I know I'm doing the right thing. I have been amazed at some peoples perception of doing (what I think) is the best for your child and the most natural too.

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jenk1 · 26/09/2005 12:22

feel [blush[] for u and that silly woman,i wonder, what do people think women used to do before formula and bottles?

in some countries around the world babies are fed until 3 or 4, who is responsible for making this country so anti-breastfeeding?
i dont understand it at all but it makes me sad

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CarolinaMoon · 26/09/2005 12:28

What a ridiculous woman Likklemum .

Does she have kids herself? What did she think you should be feeding your ds on??

Mojomummy · 26/09/2005 13:32

Likklemum, what an idiot doctor

I had a similar experience when taking DD to Dr for constipation....he told me my MILK was making her constipated !!! I didn't think I'd heard him right, so repeated it back - what a moron !! We changed to a difference surgery after that.

I think it's great you're BF, well done & keep at it . People are weird about it sometimes, but it's the best thing to do - I bf DD morning & night for 2 year & lots of people do it for longer.

Mojomummy · 26/09/2005 13:34

sorry, in my annoyance, got the names confused meant to say to Jenk1.

PrettyCandles · 26/09/2005 13:44

Jenk - you are right he is wrong. Plain and simple!

I think many people seem to think that breastfed babies get nothing else. Well, OK, that's true - until 5-6 months! FGS do they really think that that's all we feed our walking, talking, climbing, exploring, mischevious bundles of 18mo energy?!

The time to give up is when you are ready and she is ready.

I never expected to feed long-term, especially after struggling to feed my ds at all. I was contemplating giving up feeding dd when she was 9m, but then she had a bout of gastro, and was I glad that I had bm to give her! It was all she had for a week, and then it took another week or two to get her back to ordinary food. That convinced me that there was no reason to give up, just because she had reached a certain age or diet, and I continued feeding her until 22m, when she decided to stop.

So follow your true instinct - you are doing very well indeed.

karmamother · 26/09/2005 21:33

I bf my DS for 17 months it's one of my proudest achievements. (aside from actually creating him)

The feeding was particularly tough at the 9 week mark & as I was due to return to work when he was 16 wks, I decided to battle it out until he was 12 weeks then slowly convert to formula. By 10 weeks, I'd sorted out the probs & fed for another 15 months!! The only reason I stopped was I was put on meds for an ulcer, so I had to stop. It was my intention to feed until he was 2. What better way to calm a fractious toddler that won't have his afternoon nap than a cuddle & booby??

It sounds like this woman's reaction is simply a symptom of society in general today. Lots of people, male&female have never seen a woman BF. They find it uncomfortable to be around. Hopefully, in time things may improve.

likklemum · 27/09/2005 23:09

She doesnt have children herself but said she was feeling broody. Maybe she'll look back on our conversation and cringe in years to come!

morocco · 27/09/2005 23:18

honestly!! tut tut - some doctors need a few lessons in tact and bf benefits!
fwiw, I'd say you don't even need to set a time or date on when you're going to stop, just see what happens and take it from there.
I always intended to bf beyond a year and perhaps to 2 but have just stopped at coming up to 19 months more or less by accident. I didn't even notice really, but I just got a bit slack about the morning feed, then the night feed turned into more of a cuddle and book read, and suddenly a few days ago I realised it has been over a week since I last bf. I can't even remember the 'last time'. ds doesn't seem to have really noticed, bless. I'm really happy with this no stress, no 'last feed' way of finishing, very different to with ds2.
hth

moondog · 27/09/2005 23:21

Ahhh,there are a many many arses in this world unfortunately!

Jenk,you're doing fab.Give up when you're both ready and not a moment sooner!

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