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BREAST FEEDERS - Do you still see your breast as an erogenous zone??????

28 replies

Eaney · 24/09/2005 12:34

Just wondering really. My DP still sees my breasts as a sexual thing but since BFing I just see them as purely functional. I don't like them being touched. I also don't really care who sees them so I'm sure I've embarrassed many a person.

Anyone else feel like this.

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Carmenere · 24/09/2005 12:37

I definitely felt like this but things are getting back to normal thankfully

morningpaper · 24/09/2005 12:38

I felt the same - like I had a toaster strapped to my front. All utilitarian and not sexy at all.

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Eaney · 24/09/2005 12:40

Did it get better only after you stopped BFing?

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frannyf · 24/09/2005 12:41

Yes, I agree. It feels different now when they are touched - not the same at all. Also they are such a different size and shape.

I think I am in mourning for my cleavage.

RosiePosie · 24/09/2005 12:47

For me, breastfeeding made my breasts hugely erogenous, much more so than when I'm not breastfeeding. I think I'm pretty unusual in feeling like this. Sorry for TMI, but dh could make me orgasm just through playing with my breasts whilst I was breastfeeding . Not like that at all, now that I've stopped.

morningpaper · 24/09/2005 13:04

Eaney I think it made a difference when I stopped LEAKING which was around a year or so. I weaned just after 18 months and it was easier then, but to be honest I've never really felt the same about my breasts since.

ParisMum · 24/09/2005 13:06

I've never stopped seeing my breasts as an erogenous zone but maybe I didn't breastfeed as long as you guys did (7 months).

pootlepod · 24/09/2005 13:12

I didn't like DH touching them all the time I was breastfeeding and bless him, he understood and backed off. Just before I stopped, they felt more normal and things were 'as they were'

Nightynight · 24/09/2005 13:15

he he my first purchase after having dd2 was a lacy pushup bra from M+S. best clothing investment ever.

karmamother · 24/09/2005 13:15

Wow, RosiePosie!! That's quite a feat! I'm rather jealous, actually.

Before I had my DS, my boobs weren't that bothered about the touchy-feely stuff. But afterwards!! They are a new set of norks, all round.

What happens when you have your nips stimulated is oxytocin (the love hormone) is released which, in turn, causes your uterine muscle to contract. This is also the cause of afterpains during BFing. It primarily leads to the let-down reflex of Booby milk. This is why you can orgasm from it. I'm pg & when DP stimulates my nips (again, sorry TMI) I get a huge Braxton Hicks. I've stopped him from doing it now as I don't want to run the risk of setting off early labour.

SoupDragon · 24/09/2005 13:17

Whilst bf-ing they were srictly for DSs only. OK once I'd stopped feeding and they'd returned to normal.

WigWamBam · 24/09/2005 13:37

I'm a multi-tasker ... they were both a babyfeeding tool and an erogenous zone for the two years I fed dd.

oops · 24/09/2005 13:38

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mummysmilk · 24/09/2005 13:44

Cant stand them being touched!DP does understand but I think he feels a bit left out sometimes!!!!My boobies are strictly for DS at the mo, hopefully I will feel different after Ive stopped feeding but right now I dont even wanna think about them being touched

trinityrocks · 24/09/2005 14:57

never did before so not an issue

kama · 24/09/2005 15:06

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Eaney · 24/09/2005 19:52

Good to hear it may improve.

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spidermama · 24/09/2005 19:54

I hate them being touched when I'm lactating. It's a pity because they're lovely and big.

motherinferior · 24/09/2005 19:55

Nope, not since first baby

They still look pretty good though.

Tatties · 24/09/2005 20:20

I would still like them to be touched but my nipples are way too sensitive and my boobs just feel too heavy. I've been BF for 6mths now so I can't see the sensitivity decreasing until I stop BF and in the meantime the bra stays on in bed. Do they go back to feeling normal after you've stopped BF?! Hope so..

teeavee · 24/09/2005 20:24

I have to agree with frannyf - except I didn't have much of a cleavage to start with (even less now) They were definitely firmer and more 'pert' though....
I stopped BF 6 months ago, and still can't see them as an erogenous zone - I'm going to have to work on it I think...

harpsichordcarrier · 24/09/2005 20:44

goodness I am rather actually blushing at this...
I couldn't bear dh to touch them at first, when they were leaking, but I was OK once they had settled down and I didn;t have to wear pads anymore. Was always afraid of them leaking... and the smell of bm would have been very offputting.
Maybe after a couple of months? hard to remember. I do remember worrying about it because I missed it being part of the - ahem - playground

I am still bf (dd 2.5) and pg and now I think they are more sensitive than ever.

CheekyGirl · 24/09/2005 21:07

You've no idea what a relief it is reading this thread!!

I thought I was a bit 'prudish' not liking dh touching my breasts! I am bf ds age 9mths.

I totally agree with the toaster analogy!!

Also, I am privately a tad worried that my boobs might be as deflated and saggy (sorry if tmi) as they are after a feed, when I eventually stop bf. I rather like them when I am full - big and pert!

Roxswood · 27/09/2005 11:00

I love my breasts being touched and I'm feeding my 15 month old girl. It feels great to have them touched in a gentle sexual way again after all day with a hoover attached to them..

highlander · 27/09/2005 12:47

yuck - still purely functional.

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