So sorry me again, really struggling any help appreciated

[alfiemama]

My lo just seems to have terrible wind, after each feed, I can here it going round her body and she pulls up and shrieks and wont settle. I have tried infacol, but doesn't seem to solve the problem.

My first son was ff and had awful reflux and wind, and we put him on Omnio Comfort, a thicker feed which was a god send. I really wanted to bf but not at the discomfort of little one.

I try and get the wind up, tried sitting on knee holding jaw and patting/rubbing back, also over the shoulder with both arms and legs straight and patting her back. She will burp but still seems in discomfort.

Why do you think she would get such bad wind? And is there a way to solve this. Any help appreciated.

I have been switch feeding toget lo's weight up

Just had a read - could it be silent reflux? So you won't get huge vomiting, but you do get wet burps, the arching etc etc plus curdled milk coming up.

I have a powerful letdown, I think. the dts do better (less burping, less crying, more settled) when I lie on my back, a pillow tucked up tight against my side, baby in crook of arm on top of pillow. they're on their sides, but almost on their stomachs in this position, parallel to or slightly angled into my body, and because I'm on my back, I imagine that gravity helps to counteract my fast let down (although no idea if this is true). certainly, this is the only position in which dt2 is comfortable enough to feed to sleep. perhaps worth a try?

When I looked into this and spoke to NCT and LLL they suggested it could be letdown/oversupply, reflux/silent reflux or overtiredness... In our case it was letdown/oversupply and reflux (which was stressful getting to the bottom of). Mama's suggestion is a good one to try.

Thanks everyone. Sorry only just managed to get on here.
Well gave her colief last night, 4 drops in exp milk, but gave her awful gassy/explosive poos. I did take 2 sterile bottle to bed with colief in, but chickened out of giving as didn't know if safe. Tiktok will give them a call, as it doesn't say anywhere.

MamaChris, I have been trying this and definitely helps, thanks

Last night we co slept for the first time, have to admit really nervous about it, but we did get quite a decent nights sleep.
If we can maybe just do until I get over my paralysed bowel problem, and then look into getting her back into moses basket.

I will look into silent reflux, thanks

alfie I'm glad the co-sleeping went well, it is brilliant way of everyone getting more sleep I think.

I would just say at this stage, that she is so tiny. If she is gaining weight and you are getting plenty of wet and dirty nappies then try not to worry too much. This may all settle down in another 2 days/a week or whatever as she gets bigger.
You need rest to recover from your section and if you can get that by co-sleeping and not worrying too much about fixing what may or may not be an actual problem then that has got to be a good thing.

Does that make sense? I'm obviously not saying that you should ignore your DD being in distress, just that it is really easy to get so caught up in finding solutions that you exhaust yourself.

Thanks Ali, yes totally makes sense, which I think is why we did the co sleeping. Ive also just had a nap with her and feeling much better.
I can physically see that she is getting bigger, so that helps a lot.

My next issue is that I now have to some how, get her to take bottles, she will have them but throws it up. Just my other D's has asd and I have to take him on lots of appointments, so will have to leave her.

Is it not easier just to take her with you, though, to appointments? No one would expect you to leave a tiny baby behind, and if you feel a bit shy about feeding away from home, practising doing it with nothing showing in front of a mirror :)

Yes I would take her with you.

I have sat in all sorts of places feeding DS and no-one has ever batted an eyelid. I found that a vest and cardigan combo was the best for retaining modesty while feeding. You can pull the vest down, and the cardigan can cover the top of your boob so you aren't showing anything unless people are being really nosy and craning to look - but that is their problem!

I think I will have to, as not forcing something she doesn't want to do.
I have a baby bubu cover (tasteful one, not the garish kind) so I'm ok with whipping them out as you cant see anything. I think its just building confidence up.