Want to stop breastfeeding DD 2y2m

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Hi, i know this being mumsnet i will get lots of posts telling me to carry on. but actually now, i feel enough is enough, and i want to stop BF DD. she is now just over 2 and only feeds at night before bed but she always asks if i am there (i am 98% of the time).
any tips on how to stop?

anyone?
will this be my first unanswered thread? [sob]

So is she just having the one feed before bed then?

Does she have the feed to go to sleep? How does she drink milk the rest of the time?

If she is feeding to sleep its going to be a bit tougher for you than normal because first you will have to break the bf/sleep association.

If that's not the case then can you just go out and get someone else to put her to bed for a bit?

If she copes the 2% of the time you are not there, then you could arrange to not be there at bedtime for a week or so. That would probably be long enough to break the assosiation.

thanks provincial lady. she has coped ok once or twice in the last few months. I am trying to convince DH he wants to do bedtime on his own for ten days! he's not keen but perhaps the lure of my boobs will work

ineedsomesleep thank you too. she doesn't seem to like the taste of ordinary milk and except on cereal and in ready break and i don't want to get her in to formula. have tried her with whole and semi skimmed on a few occasions but only a sip gets drunk.
she does occasionally feed to sleep but not usually. i think she feeds to dozy though so the two are definitely associated. tbh she has been a problematic sleeper and i confess, it has made my life easier to date!

I am NO expert in these matters and have a bf 2 year old who has been a nightmare sleeper, but what has made a real difference to us recently in terms of sleeping is to brush teeth AFTER the breastfeed.

I had been putting him down awake for months after the feed but he definitely associated bf and sleep VERY strongly still. I'm thinking of winding the bf down and this is our first step- seems to be an important one.

Hope it helps you... also DH has been involved in bedtimes now for ages (and it's him who does the teeth) and I'm hoping to become less and less important in the whole sleep thing. Good luck- it's not easy and I have few rl friends in the same boat!