Gutted :(

[lovingmy2]

Feel so :(. My DD has just refused her first bedtime breatfeed. She is 12 months old next week and i know i should be pleased that it may be coming to a natural end through her own doing but i just never expected it and now she is upstairs fast asleep and i am sat here wondering if she'll want her morning feed or if thats it now. Sorry for rambling but i know some of you will understand. Thanks for reading!

Oh no, that happened to me tonight . DS3 is two weeks past his 1st birthday. He shook his head at the breast so I gave him a cup of cow's milk instead. I'd only be feeding him on one side anyhow and was wondering how much longer we could go on.

It does seem sad doesn't it- especially when you don't expect it.

very sad. I always wanted it to be her choice to end and not me forcing it to end iyswim but when she refused it and pushed it away with her hand it was hard to take. Just wasn't expecting it. I feel a little better after talking to my best friend and thinking that maybe i'll cut out the bedtime feed now whatever so it comes to a natural end. Afterall as long as she is happy thats all that matters. Just love breastfeeing her so much - its just something only i can do for her.

Arrrrr well.

Has you DS completely stopped now crikey?

Up till today, he'd been having morning and evening and sometimes mid- morning or mid- afternoon. He's been a bit poorly for the last couple of days and teething though so maybe that's it. I suppose, you're right it's good when they decide that enough's enough but I do feel just ever so slightly rejected!

I didn't know this happened. I'm still bf my DS (12m) and trying to wind it down now. So far I have only cut out the afternoon feed - but he still tries to grab my top etc. and doesn't take cows milk well at all.

TBH I would be delighted if he weaned himself - I'd feel less guilty about stopping it.

Sorry, should have added that I can of course understand why you feel sad though. As much as I want to stop bf soon, I am also going to miss it. The closeness etc.

Perhaps your DD will just drop the night feed.

Tomorrow is a new day

DD was going off the boob a few weeks ago, and now she is like a new born

She is 13 months

It may not be the end

Even thinking about stopping feeding makes me teary so I understand your sadness

Thanks for that rubyslippers - it's never easy is it!

It isn't Crikey ...

And believe me, when DD was a few weeks old and I was weeping with exhaustion I didn't think I would every cry when it came to stopping!

DS1 did this when he was 15 months and i was pg. i didn't offer anymore as i thought he was self weaning. only later did i discover that it was probably just a nursing strike. now i feel guilty that he only got bf for such a short time

Oooh DS does this occasionally-comes back twice as strong a few days later....every time I think "ooohhh is he self weaning". The answer at 19 months appears to be "definitely not mummy".

My friends DS of the same age has just put her through a ten day nursing strike, where she assumed he was self weaning. He fed twice yesterday morning like he had never stopped!

These babies just like to keep us on our toes!

Kristina! Please don't be sad. Your lo has had a great bf experience and no tricky weaning to deal with. You deserve to feel proud. [hsmile]

thank you

Good for you keeping it going - my DS2 kept on until school age - he loved it so much and I suppose I did too but it was so taboo and embarrassing - such a shame when it's the most natural thing

DS2 carried on until 4yrs - we both were happy with the routine but I felt I had to keep it secret due to embarrassment - taboo thing - I think what a shame now when he is so much older and growing up so quickly

Mine refused last night and tonight, but I'm not expecting that to be the end. She's not that hungry at the moment.

Keep offering, I'm sure she'll come back when she's hungry.

I offered yesterday morning and she accepted then this morning she refused and tonight she refused again. Part of me is thinking i should let it go whilst she is happy to drop it so i don't have to face the prospect of forcing the issue further down the line. Thoughts greatly received!