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Infant feeding

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Reverse cycling or 4 month sleep regression?

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Trillian42 · 28/10/2010 13:16

My 4.5 month old DD is waking every 2 hours to feed at night. We used to be almost guaranteed a 5 hour stretch from about 3-4 weeks old, often 7-8 hours (barring some blips), but in the last few weeks she has been waking more and more often at night.

She used to cluster feed in the evening, feeding every hour from 7 o'c until a giant feed at 10.30ish.
Now she feeds every hour from 7o'c (but they're small feeds) & has a good feed around 10ish & falls asleep. As an example last night she fed every hour then...
slept at 10.30, woke at 11 - fed
slept again, woke at 1 - fed
slept again, woke at 3 - fed
woke almost 20mins later - fed
woke at 5.30 - fed,
woke for the day before 7.

After gorging herself at night she isn't really hungry in the morning and would happily go 4.5 hours without a feed (though I usually try to feed her to sleep for a nap as she gets very grouchy - rubbing her eyes etc). She's very happy when she wakes at night & chatters away to herself but if you ignore her for too long, she doesn't go back to sleep but cries. My husband tried to settle her last night at one stage & she started roaring!

I feed her in a dark room lying down during the day as she gets distracted very easily at the moment.

She starts out the night in her cot, but usually ends up in the bed on the first, second or third wake up depending on how tired I am. She's in a Pavlik harness so takes up a lot of room in the bed, and there isn't room for the 3 of us & I like having my husband in the bed! Plus I wonder if she is waking more frequently because she can smell milk & is taking advantage of my proximity to snack/comfort suck when she feels like it.

Kellymom has some tips for reverse cycling, but nothing that I'm not already doing. If anything, I probably offer her boob too often during the day as her weight gain slowed a lot when she was put in the harness first so I worry she's not feeding enough.

Please, please, please help if you have any ideas. I'm so tired & this has been going on for weeks. I can't even sleep sometimes because all I can think of is how I'll be awake in a couple of hours time anyway. I'm even tempted to have a large glass of wine this evening to see if it helps her fall asleep!!

PS I know we were lucky to have her sleep through the night at the beginning & not everyone even gets that now [hblush]

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Trillian42 · 28/10/2010 13:19

Just saw an old post of mine about her not sleeping at 11 weeks! She did go back to 'normal' after that though... for a little while

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Ineedsomesleep · 28/10/2010 13:20

Sorry haven't really got any advice but have the large glass of wine, it might not help her sleep but it will help you [hgrin]

Albrecht · 28/10/2010 13:26

Sorry no advice either. Just watching as I could have written this post, except ds has never slept for 7 hours...

Ineedsomesleep · 28/10/2010 13:28

One thing you could try is expressing in the morning and giving her that after her 10ish feed. Some Mums find it works for them, so it might be worth a try.

Trillian42 · 28/10/2010 14:36

I'm worried about drinking a glass of wine though if she's sleeping in the bed with me [hsad] - does anyone else worry about this? She's a 75th centile baby, so very sturdy, but I've a phobia about her disappearing under the duvet, or being squashed by one of us. I even have night terrors where I'll wake up trying to find her in the bed even though she's asleep in the cot next to me [hblush] I'll even wake my husband to make sure she's not underneath him. I only get these though when she's not in the bed.

(I used to have this about there being spiders crawling all over me - it's a weird sleep thing that I have that comes out when I'm stressed & has just developed a baby theme since DD was born)

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Ineedsomesleep · 28/10/2010 17:00

I used to get those when DS was tiny so have every sympathy. Have to admit that I've had a glass of wine and co-slept but not regularly. If you have a smallish glass in the early evening you'll probably be sober by midnight.

Trillian42 · 16/11/2010 13:33

Update: DD is now over the 5 mth mark and no sign of improvement. HV has said that the increased feeding at night is a sign she's ready for weaning - is this true?

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