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this book is fantastic!

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Kity · 23/10/2010 10:05

Dont know if this is relevant here, but as a BF mum of two I wanted to share.

I bought the book, "What mothers do: especially when it looks like nothing" Whilst pregnant with my second baby but didn't manage to start reading it until I had had her. Anyway, after a few pretty horrific sleepless nights I decided to pick it up.

It really is the most amazing book I've read in terms of its honesty and total understanding of mothers and how we tick, how we feel and the reality of being a mother. It talks about those things that few of us dare not mention to those around us, I remember feeling like I wanted to throw my son out of the window when I he was very small coz I was just so exhausted, this book talks about all those feelings and that its normal for some mums to feel this way. There is a chapter called "so tired I could die" and I have literally cried my way through it as nothing has put into words so well how I've felt throughout my experience of mothering.

Im waffling but I just wanted to share it with you all, I've read quite a few posts on here recently of women who sound as desperate as I have for periods of time and I can honestly say I've taken great great comfort from this book. Its not a self help book and wont give you an 8hour block of sleep but it really make you feel understood. I keep showing bits to my hubby too and even he agrees that its given him a better understanding.

If you can manage to keep your eyes open long enough to have a look I promise its worth it (imo)

Hope this helps someone
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OmicronPersei8 · 23/10/2010 10:11

I cried through the introduction, just because somebody out there understood. It's the only book I recommend to new mothers now. I knew which book it would be when I saw your thread title...

jaggythistle · 23/10/2010 10:42

It is a lovely book. i bought it when DS was a few weeks old after hearing it mentioned on here i think.

made me cry a bit too!

especially the bits about tiredness and feeling like you get nothing done. Grin

Kity · 23/10/2010 10:49

You just feel like saying "FINALLY! someone has written it down" don't you? There are so many books that talk about what you should and shouldn't do and I think they do a disservice to new mums who are trying to do the best they can. I just wanted someone to say "its ok to feel like this"

The bit that really got me was about letting go of your own life, and not thinking "Ill get back to normal again soon" accept the changes and that this is your new life. I just hadn't thought of it like that at all.
I've almost finished it but I know Ill probably keep dipping into it now and then when Im feeling overwhelmed.

Cant recommend it highly enough

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AngelDog · 23/10/2010 21:22

I cried through most of it - lying in bed with post-birth insomnia waiting for DS to wake for yet another feed.

It still helps on days when I feel like I've 'done nothing all day' with my 9.5 m.o.

I'd recommend it to anyone.

Greedygirl · 23/10/2010 21:40

It is a gorgeous book and I was looking forward to reading it again but I lent it out to a friend with a newborn baby and she denies ever having it! Not really in the spirit of this thread sorry! I completely recommend it tho as a "gift" for new mums Grin.

upsydaisysexstylist · 23/10/2010 21:43

Absolutley great book, and I loved the wide range of classical references, it was a bit of a light bulb book for me

BaronessBomburst · 23/10/2010 21:54

Ooooh! I just popped that in the Amazon shopping basket. Along with Wifework and Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes A Baby's Brain. Anyone read those?

Miffster · 24/10/2010 10:16

I am reading it at 33 weeks pg and I think it is brilliant.

It is allaying a lot of my anxieties.

Bumperlicious · 24/10/2010 11:26

Never managed to make it past the first chapter but I cried when I read it!

rubyslippers · 24/10/2010 11:30

It's a wonderful book

I have loaned it out to a few people (mainly sleep deprived mums)

Greedygirl · 24/10/2010 15:58

I have read Why Love Matters, it is really interesting although a bit scary if you are contemplating using child care at any point which most of us have to. Although it does emphasise that it is the quality of the child care which counts. Not heard of the other one, will have a look on Amazon.

cherrytop · 24/10/2010 19:36

Agree with Greedygirl's summary of Why Love Matters.

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