I just spilt all the EBM

[FingonTheValiant]

Just an online wail really. Dh doesn't understand why I burst into tears over it and says it doesn't matter.

Baby is 3 days old, not latching brilliantly, and I can't bear the thought of frantically pumping for a cup feed while he screams for the third night running. So I thought I'd get ahead, and I just spilt 3/4 of it over myself. I'd been pumping for bloody ages too :(

Don't know whether to try again or not.

Oh this happened to me at a similar stage - DH hadn't screwed the lid on the bottle properly. I was sooo upset. Hormones don't help.

Lots of sympathy, and many congratulations on your DS!

Oh Fingon poor you. Have you got rl help with the latch?

Sending lots of hugs. I've done it before now and it is sooooo upsetting.

Thanks for all the sympathy. I'm having dinner and then I'll try again.

Midwife came today and gave us some help, so I'm hoping we'll be fine, but I was trying to avoid a repeat of the past couple of nights.

Just as well it was my fault and not dh's, I'd have killed him.

:( I've done that and it is awful. Actually it was DH who did the spilling - I'd just spent ages pumping and for once had managed to get more than an ounce out. Poor man, he looked sick with guilt and worry that it would be the final straw that sent me completely loopy (DD was a bad sleeper and I was shattered).

Hope it gets better soon. Have you tried any of the helplines for breastfeeding?

ABM 08444 122 949
NCT 0300 330 0771
La Leche 0845 120 2918

Oh gutting! Hope it gets better for you. It's still early days yet x

the pumping will still have generated more supply - not a waste of time.

oh buggery sod!

Thanks MrsTM, I'll try calling if tonight isn't any better.

Edgar, that's cheered me up a little at least, thank you.

Thanks again everyone for being sympathetic :(

Trying again now.

OMG I'd b kicking my self. Ebm, especially when ds is only 3 days old, is like liquid gold. And it takes sooooo long to pump it when you could be doing a million other things. Deep breaths!! Feel your pain.

Best to phone sooner rather than later for the advice - most phonelines are run from the volunteers' homes. So if you phone at 1am you would be waking someone up and possibly their children too.

That way you can get an action plan sorted before you're completely exhausted too.

Hope you have a better night.

Thanks MrsTM - I wasn't going to call in the middle of the night though, I meant in the morning; and I definitely wont if it means waking up someone's family!

He's had a bigger feed than last night, so I'm hoping it'll be better tonight.

I managed to pump some more, but not as much as I lost :(

Thanks everyone.

Good luck. :)

I know that you haven't asked for this advice, but your baby is only three days old, and your milk is only just coming in, and I'm sure that you're exhausted from the birth and the breastfeeding at night - and I promise that it does get easier. Just do whatever it takes to get through the first few weeks and be gentle with yourself. Breastfeeding was very hard for me at first, but after a while it was a huge convenience in my life.

My DH spilt my first ever EBM, I was gutted! it was in a wee cup and I only mabaged to save about 0.5 out of the 1.5 oz to give to DS so I feel your pain.

I also took a couple of weeks to get latching well but we got there so hope you get on ok.

Congratulations and good luck with your new son. :)

Ugh, I've done that. Luckily it was a bit further into my breastfeeding experience but I still nearly cried. These early days can be sooooooooooo tiring and emotional - I hope that things get easier for you soon :)