need my space ! weaning off night feeds/cosleeping ..? 9 month old

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im desperate- well getting there ;need to wean baby- 9 mnths- off co-sleeping and night feeding to get my evenings back- suggestions?she still feeding several times a nite
one formula feed b 4 bed or ?

Hello!

I've just started - firstly we just had a bedside cot, but he just rolled onto ours to be closer! Now the cot is right next to the bed to I can reach out and pat him if I need to and he can see me, but he's not in bed - the plan is to move him further and further away.

To stop the feeds I've tried shh pat to get him back to sleep - sometimes it's successful - sometimes it's a scream fest and horrible and I give in. Best night so far was only two feeds with no other waking, but last night was 4 feeds with a few shh pats. We only started last Monday so it's early days. The No cry Sleep Solution and the baby whisperer were handy for reassurance and tips.

I didn't go the formula route - works for some but not for others.

Te other big thing that I find can get him back to sleep without a feed is music - I have Lullabys on in his room and I find he's waking up to feed less now they're on loop. I assume when he is in light sleep the sooth him back to deep sleep??

it's definitely got better than it was but it;'s still a work in progress. now if only i could get rid of the 5am wake up call ...

Did you do know there's a huge sleep regression at 9 months? They wake more and often need to feed more at night.

More info here, here and here.

Sympathies - my 9 m.o. is doing the same at the moment. It does pass, though, just like the 4 month regression did.

At 7 months, some of the NCSS ideas helped me reduce night feeds from 6 per night to only one.

thanks so helpful.angel dog what is ncss? i was considering weaning her off but now will let her phase pass; ppl v disparaging tho and some older gen mums are horrified 'isnt she in her own cot? you'll have to go cold turkey then she'll learn' but my instinct says stick it out she obviuosly needs it.must be a growth spurt then at this age?

wow great links thanks

Sorry, NCSS = No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley.

I had similar comments about DS co-sleeping from my mum. Apparently there were a lot of scares then about babies being smothered by their parents, but now research shows that bf babies are at very low risk of cot death, whether co-sleeping or not.

And I think the trouble with many people is that they don't remember the exact details of what their baby was doing when - so they may think that they were sleeping through the night at a much younger age than they really were.

Hi
I am trying to wean my 6 month old night feeding, I know that many people say he still needs feeding/comfort at night but we both need a good nights sleep.
We hired a sleep consultant and to wean off the night feeding she suggested giving a really good feed at 6:30 not feeding before 12 and then each night decreasing the amount of time or millilitres you nurse (we give a bottle od expressed milk at the first feed) we started off at 90 - 9 minutes and are now down to 30mls -3 minutes. We did 2 nights at 50mls.However this is our last ever night feed on Saturday we are going cold turkey. This may be a little rough! But I figure at least he has had the chance to gradually increase his calorie intake during the day and also now relies on less intervention from us to put himself to sleep.

Also we tried a formula feed when I was completely desperate it made no difference he was still waking every 3 hours!

I think the Elizabeth pantley book has a good section on how to end co-sleeping we did it gradually eg in his own cot and then early in the morning with is and slowly phased it out but my ds was a lot younger.