My dd dropped her bedtime feed at about 22-23m, because she wanted to drink milk from a cup like her big brother. That was the begining of the end. The ocassional daytime feeds just faded away, until she was only feeding when she woke up in the morning. And a couple of days before her second birthday I suddenly realised that we had been going straight to breakfast for a few days, and I had not noticed her last feed. It was a very gentle process, and once she started dropping feeds I followed the Never Offer Never Refuse philosophy.
But dd was sleeping through, was never fed to sleep, and had not fed at night since 6m.
Feeding a toddler at night is more about habit than anything else. And, IME, it's a killer!
Ds2 fed through the night until 18, when I finally cracked and night-weaned him. It took about 3w, there was some crying ( from both of us - though I did not do CC) but eventually he was settling himselfto sleep and sleeping through. He still fed plenty of times during the day, and I never managed to get him off feeding to sleep for his nap.
At about 20m he started cutting down by himself, and skipping or even refusing occasional feeds. I could have applied the Never Offer Never Refuse principle, but I had just learned that he was dairy-intolerant, so I thought it better to continue feeding him as long as possible.
In the end I fed ds2 until he was 3y1m, when I had to stop because I had to go on some longterm medication. I did the Never Offer part, but also distracted him or delayed until he forgot. After about a week of minimal feeding (during which time all naps were in the buggy or the car) when he nextasked I told him all the milk was gone, he had drunk it all up.
He took it tolerably well, not too much fuss - a little upset, but never in tears. He was quite interested in the fact that mummy milk was for babies, like thebabies several of our friends had at the time, and that he was very obviously not a baby like them.
He kept asking or trying for many months, though, and 1 year on, still talks about it.
So, there you are: a very long screed, but two different weaning stories.
HTH, and enjoy however feeding and weaning work for you.