DS aged 2 today has not asked for BF yesterday nor today and I am an emotional wreck........

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He normally asks to be fed morning and night. He may occasionally ask at other times but not often. I don't usually offer, although sometimes I just assume he wants it.

Anyway, last night he was v tired and had a cold, and was too occupied with putting his new toy Gruffalo (he had his present a day early) to bed, and so just wanted his cot. This morning DH and I went in to sing happy birthday, and then he was busy with Grufallo again. So I put away the breastfeeding chair and cushion from his room.

Tonight he was a bit grizzly at bedtime, but I didn't offer, and put him in his cot, and he didn't ask, and was asleep in 10 minutes.

Which is all great, and obviously 2 is old enough to wean, but I didn't expect it to be so sudden. I am in floods, and I really don't know what to do tomorrow. My gut feeling is that if I offer he will say yes, but if I don't he won't look back.

How long do the hormones take to settle down? If I start again am I just delaying a problem? I would rather it was easy for him and hard for me than vice versa.

the way i see it is if he doesn't want to feed he won't.
so, if you offer and he refuses then that's fine

if you offer and he takes it then maybe he isn't ready to wean?

i don't think there is any harm in offering, as long as you are both happy to continue breastfeeding

I personally wouldn't offer. Think you are right in making it easier for him and hard for you than vice versa. You may find he comes back to it tomorrow. I'm still feeding DD at 11 months and eventually want her to self wean. She too currently has a morning and evening feed and the odd daytime one. At the moment i offer it her.

I'd leave it - if he didn't ask he obviously didn't want it and if he isn't bothered then perhaps you are wanting to continue for you rather than his benefit.

Another milestone, get used to them...

and you'll feel better once your hormones calm down.

It's a bit of a shock for you, your emotions are understandable. Try to remember all those things that you thought you could do if you weren't bf any more! My DS did almost exactly what yours is doing, turned two and dropped the bedtime feed that was the only one he had at this time. VERY sudden. I DID offer for a few more days, and I remember him having another feed, which I was glad of as I could remember it, IYSWIM.

A 2 y/o can go a week or so between feeds. DD2 is 2.10 y/o and sometime doesn't feed for a few days/a week then will start asking again. I am feeding DD3 as well though so I don't know if you would have engorgement with that length of time between feeds.

I only offer if she is very distressed or hurt though.

Thanks everyone. He asked this morning so I fed him, and was able to put it in my brain to remember it, as iggi said, in case this is the last. Am coming round to the idea he will stop soon, and will continue to not make it part of a routine that he has little choice in, but really up to him.

Still feel a bit wobbly though, and hope the feeding and the hormaones will decrease gradually! It was the feeling of having fed for the last time without realising that was so strange, but from now on I will know that each one could be the last.

I feel for you. I was fine with the one that I planned to stop feeding. I could have the last feed knowing it was the last but the ones where it just stopped rattled me a little.

I would offer, he will take it if he wants it. Same as TIY

gosh that took ages to post. I wrote it before I fed the rabbits and its only just gone through
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Thank you. It helps knowing that other people feel the same way. I think I might continue to offer but reasonably infrequently.