do you want to know why i should give up BF?

[booyhoo]

well I'm going to tell you anyway.

apparently i should give up BFing my 16 month old non-verbal ds because when he stayed with my mum on saturday he didn't look for it.

Well you'd better give up then

will i heck.

also apparently it is a 'me' thing and nothing to do with ds as he gets nothing from it. i was stiffling the giggles. all this from a MIDWIFE!!!!! i am currently printing off info from kellymom for my next visit. ignorant woman.

Yep, it's a sign, for sure.

Fortunately my mum BF me and my sis til age one so I am hoping not to have to deal with such ridiculous irrelevant advice myself!

Stick to your guns.

Clever boy. Imagine the horror if he had!

I bf my DS until he was 2yrs 6mths. My mum thinks I gave up at 9mths cos that's when she suggested I should. rolls eyes

As you were, OP!

oh no gingerkirsty, don't assume anything

my mum bf me til i was nearly 2 and she is always on at me to give up!!

i think they think that BF is terriblhy hard work for us and that it'll be nice for us to not have to do it. so they think they're doing favour by pointing ouit that the baby doesn't "need" it any more.

apparently because my sister was holding him and she has breasts that he didn't try to feed from, that means he no longer wants it!! but he did drink cows milk ou of a cup when she gave it to him so that proves that he wants milk just not breastmilk.

yes mum, lets see what happens if i dangle my breasts and you dangle the cup infront of him. lets really prove the point you are so keen to make.

Bonkers! That is so unusual thisisyesterday!

booyhoo did your mum BF at all?

she fed me for 6 weeks and that put her off doing it with my sister.

Oh bless her, it's a shame she's not convinced you and your DS are both still enjoying it! She means well doesn't she, people usually do... Does it bother you or can you just take it with a smile and carry on regardless?

i was able to ignore it but the level she brought it to on sunday actually felt like an attack. my dad was sitting beside her and it really felt like they had planned to get me to stop. silly as that sounds it just came out of the blue and there was no convincing her that it really was benefitting ds, in the end she took the huff and told me i was shouting at her ( i wasn't, this is a regular tactic when she has nothing better to say). i have printed off some stuff about breastfeeding past 1 year. I'm going to give it to her and tell her i won't be discussing my choice anymore, the info is there if she wants to read it.

"...lets see what happens if i dangle my breasts and you dangle the cup infront of him."

Boo, I read that and

Pity your mum is being a PITA, but she's prob just being nosey and maybe guilty that she knows balls all about bf.

My mum didn't even attempt to bf the 3 of us, so when DS was born and I bf him both she and my dad were like

DS is 7 months now and I'm getting some comments. I just nod and smile.

haa, i did laugh myself after i had posted it. i now have images of it happening!!

it is a real pity. i think more a pity for her that she just can't accept that this is what i do. she ges herself annoyed about it when there really is no reason at all. i am not harming anyone, least of all ds. it is a non issue for me but for her it is a big issue.

I was told by my mad-as-a-box-of-ferrets grandmother when DS was 4 months old that I shouldn't be bfing him anymore as he's a big boy now.... she also told me when he was born that I was wrong for bfing at all cuz I'd have to drink milk all the time to keep my supply up.

I just nodded and smiled.

DS is 7 months old and one of the main reasons I'm still bfing him is cuz it's a great 2-fingers up to my family who were all so miserable when I told them I was going to bf my DS.

Boo sorry for hijack! If you're at the meet-up on Fri we can chat more about it then :)

Of course, 16 months is too young for you DS to know the differnce between his bf-ing mum and another female, eh?

Sounds like your plan of giving her the info is a good one IMO.

I'm just wondering what exactky she thought he would do to let her know he wanted it? i mean he can't speak or walk. did she think he was going to draw a picture? is that how they let you know they want breastmilk? should i see the HV? is he not hitting his milestones?

If your DS really wanted to breastfeed, he would clearly be lunging open-mouthed at the norks of any passing females. You are therefore forcing your boobs on him for no good reason, shame on you

when DS started at nursery at 8 months, they knew it was time for his EBM bottle when he was going after the nursery workers' chests!

He is 13 months and knows the difference now. Just makes the lunge at me as soon as I walk in.

I have tried to give him cow's milk but he spits it out. That's always a good answer for anyone who suggests stopping.

I wonder if there would have been hearty approval if he was boob-nuzzling at anyone and everyone like a newborn. It's just an excuse to criticise isn't it.

Ha good point porcelain no doubt booyhoo and her norks would have been to blame for his antisocial behaviour then!!! You just can't win sometimes.... well you can actually, you can win by continuing to feed your child exactly as you please!