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So sad about stopping breastfeeding

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ReneRusso · 26/09/2010 20:35

I have stopped breastfeeding my darling little DD3 (6mos). I have ductal thrush for the second time and and I just can't bear the pain any more. I am taking a fluconazole course for the thrush, but it isn't working yet, at least not quickly enough. Also having already had the thrush a couple of months ago, and tried hard to keep it at bay, I feel like it perhaps never went away, and am not confident I can get rid of it without stopping bfing. Please don't try to change my mind about giving up. I am quite sure it's the right thing to do, but emotionally it's very difficult.

I was going to try and stop gradually, one feed at a time. I successfully got it down to 3 bottles during the day, and bfeeding morning and night, but it got to the point where I was in screaming agony when the breasts were fairly empty after she had a good feed one morning. I knew that feed would be the last. Painkillers not enough to help. So I have stopped much more abruptly than I wanted to. I think I was driving my family mad moaning about the pain.

DD is coping ok, she likes her bottle thankfully, but she is a bit puzzled I think. She has developed a new type of moany cry which I think is a "wish I could have booby" cry. The heartbreaking thing is that I can't even comfortably cuddle her that close because my breasts are so sore with engorgement. I am pumping a little bit every now and then just to relieve the engorgement, but I just want to get this over with.

I am concerned the sudden change in hormones will affect me badly, I am already in tears every day. DH doesn't really get it when I cry, and just says you've done really well to feed this long, DD3 will be fine etc. But it just feels so unnatural not feeding her. I was so sure I wanted to stop and I know it will be fine when the engorgement is gone and when DD3 has forgotten and isn't trying to dive down to find the boob.

I'm just so sad. Crying now as I type this. If you made it this far through my rambling, thanks for reading.

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PerArduaAdNauseum · 26/09/2010 20:39

Oh you poor... I had to go cold turkey with DS - he would happily take a bottle if I wasn't around, but was holding out for breast if I was in sight. I was going back to work (no expressing facilities) and was getting a lot of migraines - at least 2 a week - which were drying up my supply anyway. Bloody agony for a few days even so. Luckily for you, savoy cabbage is in the supermarket - have you tried cabbage leaves in your bra? They really do help. And the less you express the better in the end, as it will keep stimulating flow a bit.

Re hormones - I don't know. Just go as easy on yourself as you can, and remember you have done well to get to this point Smile

eaglewings · 26/09/2010 20:40

Sending hugs as this sounds horrible to go through

Have you spoken to your GP or HV about ways to reduce the pain as you stop?

DH sounds supportive, but its hard for him to understand what you are having to give up, BFing is such a special relationship.

Pray things improve

MarkStretch · 26/09/2010 20:44

I had to give up bf when DS was 7 months old due to the medication the cardiologist gave me. I was heartbroken too and cried for days. I had bf my DD for 14 months before him and I felt so guilty about that. I went cold turkey with him- had no choice and it was horrible but worth it in the end as he took to the bottle with ease after a while.

Please don't beat yourself up about it, you have done 6 months and that is wonderful, but I totally understand how you feel. Best to have a big cry about it now and then move on.

Could you try another source of comfort for her if you are worried about the comfort issue? Maybe a cloth or teddy you have slept with in your bed so it smells of you?

BrigitteBardot · 26/09/2010 21:02

Nothing helpful to say but I feel for you.

organiccarrotcake · 26/09/2010 23:38

Just a note on the fluconazole. If you felt it never really went away before, it probably didn't. You may need several courses of fluconazole to get rid of it totally. I was on it for 3 weeks and to start with it was agony so I am really sympathetic. It did eventually go and that was wooonderful, but in the meantime every feed was horrible.

So if you feel it's not gone after this course, get some more.

ReneRusso · 27/09/2010 14:37

Thanks everyone. Feeling better today, especially as DH did the night feed for the first time Wink

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