20 month old obsessed by breastfeeding

[chubbachupp]

First of all, apologies if something similar has been posted recently, I'm new to this forum and a bit desperate need a bit of advice if anyone can identify.

Basically, my 20 month old has always been very, very into breastfeeding. I always fed on demand and would put myself more in the baby-led camp of parenting. However, we nightweaned him at 11 months as he was waking for feeds/comfort so often at night it was driving me crazy.

Anyway, since then, 9 months on, he is still really into it. We got into a pattern around 14/15/16 months where he would just have it morning and night and if he asked during the day, he generally would accept no or be distracted. But I have always had to go out twice a day otherwise I know I would be feeding him at home. Anyway, we recently moved and he seems to regressed to the point where I literally sit down on the sofa and he climbs on top of me. I'm not joking when I say he wants it at home on average every 10-15 mins. I have been told I need to be firm with him as he is at an age where he is pushing boundaries BUT there is a little part of me that wonders if there is something more going on - insecurity over moving to another city/teething back molars/unable to communicate verbally yet.
And this makes it very hard to be firm with him. But at the same time I am getting very frustrated and upset that I just cannot sit down at home and we HAVE to go out all the time.

Do you think I am being unfair to deny him and try and wean him? Has anyone been through this?

Many thanks!

maybe try and re-set the routine by linking it to something else - eg b'fast and bath if you just want to feed him twice?

so he doesn't associate the sofa with bf, but he associates b'fast and bath with bf.

I have a boob monster who's still bfing at 3, but only morning/night and not every morning/night, so we're happy.
I found that DD associated bfing with me sitting on the sofa, so I stopped sitting on the sofa, our dining table/chairs are in the lounge so I just sat there with a cuppa.
As he's obviously got the hang of no feeding when you're out, could you draw that even further in so he understands that bfing is only for the sofa/bedroom/whatever works for you?
would require a few 'arguments' while he became accustomed to the new rules but he'd get there soon enough.
You may well be on to something with the moving/molars reasoning though, maybe waiting it out for a week or so and then seeing where you are would be the best idea?

thanks!

that's a good point about teaching him that the bedroom could be the only point for feeding. I've been fumbling over wording whenever he goes for me as I realise it could be contradictory, ie: no, we only have boob in the morning (but it still is morning as we just had it 10 mins ago, etc...)
also glad to know i'm not alone. Just feel in such a minority most of the time that I become doubtful of my gut instincts but really do feel that it is just ridiculously excessive recently. Maybe i will ride it out for another week or so and see - i am just dreading the winter when we will have to stay in at times!!!

oh and he still wakes 2/3 times a night but DH settles him/sleeps with him (i never feed him unless he's ill) hence another reason I'm going slightly do-lally.... never imagined it would be like this!