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is 12 months too young to self-wean?

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mollysmum82 · 17/09/2010 14:30

I really wanted to breastfeed my daughter until she was 2 years old, as per the WHO guidelines, or until she self-weaned. It was going really well but the last few days have been really upsetting.

Each time she starts to latch on, she clamps down hard with her teeth, refusing to let go. She doesn't take any milk at all, she just bites. In the past when she has teethed she has bitten me occasionally but I have always tried not to overreact and have calmly but firmly removed her and said "no biting". She has always then gone straight back on and fed. But this time she is just not letting go of me with her teeth - all 6 of them are clamping down as hard as she can and the pain is excrutiating. I have to resort to putting my fingers in her mouth to remove her which really upsets her. I'm doing everything in my willpower not to scream. I then try to put her back on but she cries hard and arches away from me. She ends up sobbing herself to sleep in my arms every nap time and night time without any milk. Its devastating.

This has gone on for nearly three days now and I just don't know what to do. Normally when she teethes she goes off her solids but she is eating more than ever. This is convincing my husband that she is letting me know she doesn't want my milk any more and is self-weaning. He thinks she can't be teething if she is so into her solids. He was never really keen on the idea of me feeding past a year and although he hates to see me upset I think he's quite pleased this has happened. Do you think he's right? Is it possible to self-wean so early?

If she really is self-weaning then I don't know what else to give her. She is severely allergic to cow's milk so can't have that or formula. Her dietician sent us some samples of neocate in the post but we never used it as it tasted vile and I was always happy just to breastfeed.

Please help me, I don't know what to do.

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MumNWLondon · 17/09/2010 14:52

Can't help on the feeding but can she have oatly oat milk? My DN has CMPI and was told its ok from 12 months with balanced diet etc.

jemjabella · 17/09/2010 16:26

It is very rare for a baby to truly self-wean before the age of 2 (normally prompted by a further pregnancy, progressing on to solids too quickly, supplementing with water or formula etc). Self-weaning is normally a slow process which takes place over months (or years!) rather than stopping dead: this to me sounds more like a nursing strike. Here is some advice on guidance on getting a baby back on the breast: www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/baby/back-to-breast.html

TruthSweet · 17/09/2010 16:48

To be honest, it doesn't sound like self-weaning. That tends to be a gradual winding down and happens in older nurslings when either they no longer need to nurse or when they lose the ability to latch. DD1 lost her ability to latch at 3.6 y/o and looking back had been having difficulties latching for two weeks. She had been nursing less and less as well.

However when DD1 & DD2 had a two week nursing stike at the same time that was sudden and unexpected (as well as very painful). DD2 was biting all the time and refusing to nurse (was pg with DD3 as well). DD2 was cutting all her eye teeth at the same time and I think she was biting to tell me she was hurting. She wasn't off her food either.

I kept the 'offering' very low key, only asking the once and then clipping my bra cup back and about 10 days in DD2 started to have feeds again but only very short and about once a day. By two weeks she was back to a more normal amount of feeds and with no biting.

Have you tried putting teething gel on 10 mins before you offer to feed her? Have you resumed your periods as sometimes babies can reject nursing if you get lower supply at ovulation/start of period (I did!) or could be pg? Hopefully your DD will stop biting you soon whether she starts nursing again or not.

AngelDog · 17/09/2010 21:33

Agree with the others. There's quite a bit of info / experience on nursing strikes on here if you search on the Talk boards.

mollysmum82 · 18/09/2010 07:37

Thanks very much for your suggestions and for sharing your experiences. I think it is a nursing strike - she woke twice in the night last night for the first time in ages and nursed both times. The relief for both of us was amazing!

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jemjabella · 18/09/2010 09:30

Glad you're back on track :)

TruthSweet · 18/09/2010 18:28

Great news mollysmum Grin

AngelDog · 18/09/2010 20:53

So pleased! :)

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