I just refused to bf dd and she fell asleep crying

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She is doing really sad little sobs in her sleep :(.

I fed her but she kept pulling on and off and would still be awake now.
So I read her a story and put her to bed and she screamed for 30 mins.

I am just so tired of constantly BF her she hates solids so refuses to eat all day and then wants to bf all night ( we were up at 10pm,2.30am,3.30am and 5.00am last night).

I didn't even plan on getting her to fall asleep alone it just happened feeling bad now.

She is 15 months BTW.

Those sleeping sobs are horrible aren't they? But she must have been exhausted, and to fall asleep after just 30 mins would suggest to me that it's what she needed to do. Don't feel horrible. She'll be cheerful when she wakes up I'm sure.

and you focus on she FELL ASLEEP part

BTW from my sleep-deprived blurry memory, I think my dd2 was behaving in a very similar way at 15 months. I began to panic that she was trying to live off bm, but she eats a lot better now (23 months) and only feeds a couple of times a day now and not at all in the night (hurrah).

I might get flamed, but it's probably the way to go and what I did with my eldest. She was a true milk monster, but filled up on it to the extent that she didn't want anything else. Reducing the night feeds meant she was hungrier in the day so ate more solids, then slept more and was better able to settle herself. It's a vicious cirlce in reverse!!

Thankyou :).

I panicked so much about starting bf that I never realised it would get so hard to get her to cut down.

Ifyourmother I hope she does start eating soon she seems to survive on boob and cereal.
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For what it's worth my DD went through a similar phase at about that age - for weeks and weeks she was taking a good hour+ to be boob'd to sleep, with accompanying assorted acrobatics, side-swapping etc etc. Drove me mad... One day I just gave her boob, she pulled off, I'd had enough and tucked her up said goodnight, and left her... and she went to sleep without so much as a peep

She's now 19 months and has been having boob in bed then kiss goodnight and going to sleep on her own happy for a good 2 months now (I still can't quite believe it).

I wonder if your DD might be going through whatever transition mine went through back then? Fingers crossed, eg?

I went cold turkey on night feeds with DS2 at about 14 months as he was spending half the night clamped on! I had a horrible few nights staring at the clock waiting for 6am, when I had arbitarily decided it would no longer be a nightfeed, with him crying desperatly trying to feed. But after those few days he started sleeping through the night and has been a brilliant sleeper ever since. And we happily carried on with day time feeds until 22 months.

Well she woke up once and ended up in bed with me ......but she is very happy this morning and ate a huge breakfast and is now munching a jaffa rice cake.

I've heard loads of mums talking about similar behaviour at this age so assume it must be a common phase.

Hi my dd is 16mths and sounds very similar, she still feeds app 10 times in a 24 hour period. NOt sure what the solution is really but you are not alone. In the last week one thing that has helped is her brother sleeping in her room, she has gone from waking up constantly and needing a feed to resettle and sometimes not resettling evn with a feed to only waking 1 or 2 times since he has been in there. Maybe worth trying if you have older children at all?? (we didn't even plan it here, we had a massive earthquake on Sat morning and put the kids in together as the aftershocks are awful and they are both in the room just off ours so easier to get to)