Advice please...

[babber]

I know theres currently a couple of threads on stopping BFing but thought it might be easier to start my own rather than hijack another!

DS is 19m and i have been thinking about stopping BFing probably since he was about 1! There always seems to be a reason why not to - but i really am ready too now. Problem is i'm not sure he feels the same. I kind of hoped he would have grown out of it my himself but i don't think hes going to without some encouragement so i just really wanted some advice on the best way to stop.

He has a feed before bed and then another after 5am (i have instigatated a 'no milk during the nigth policy which has worked very well). He uses the feed to go to sleep so i know thats going to be the hard one to drop. other than that he doesn't even ask during the day... its purely a bedtime thing for him...

should i just go cold turkey with him? how should i change the bedtime routine? any advice from others who have gone through this would be really helpful.

whoops sorry for spelling mistakes...

I too have been waiting for dd to be too distracted, too busy with other things to feed but she still is v. keen. She feeds during the day too when she is tired or teething or when she wants to stake her claim on me if her big brother is getting too many hugs!
so this is a kind of bump to generate more top tips

thanks for the bump witch!

Anyone???

Hi
I stopped feeding my dd when she was 2 years 3 months, she showed no signs of wanting to stop but I was 5 months pregnant and it was uncomfy and painful. I stopped and she was absolutley fine. I however was upset. I have now decided to stop feeding my 16 month old DS ( stopped Saturday night). I was too feeding before bed and about 5.30 - 6.00 in the morning. I have gone cold turkey and my husband has been putting him to bed and getting him when he wakes. It has gone better than expected. I wont lie he has cried but my husband has stayed with him till he has gone to sleep which has been about 1/2 an hour we have given him a drink of water when he is in his bedroom. When he wakes he has not seemed bothered at all. In fact I got him when he woke this morning, I made sure I was dressed and got him up and walking around, no sitting or laying in bed like we used to and he was ok with it. Hope this helps. I was exactly the same with my DD which is why I probably fed for so long.

Thanks Gmakes3... I was kind of hoping someone would come along and say what you have - Somehow the thought of stopping is probably going to be a lot worse than the actual stopping - kids adapt really quickly don't they? I just wanted to gauge whether it would be a nightmare or not to just stop all of a sudden...

don't know how DS would be with his dad doing bedtime... he is a bit of a mummy's boy. I guess we just don't know until we try though!

thanks for the response. will set a day next week to stop i think... (feels so strange to be planning on stopping... i think it will definitely be me that finds it harder!)