Bf dd2 while potty training dd1 - help

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Have been potty training dd1 for about 6 weeks - she will be 3 later this month. She has no problem doing wees in the loo but has the familiar fear of doing a poo. She always wants me to go with her to the bathroom and invariably nothing happens. I have started saying to her to go to the bathroom and sit on the loo and then I will come in which has reduced the unnecessary trips but for the last few days she has done a poo in her pants just as I have started to bf dd2 who is 6 months. Obviously she is looking for my attention but it's really starting to piss me off - especially as she doesn't seem to mind doing a poo in her pants. I tried to explain to her that she needed to do poos in the loo like her friends but she just seems to make a joke of it which annoys me and the whole positive encouragement flies out of the window. She first seemed to show signs of needing to do a poo at abt 10.30am and finally did the poo in her pants at 2.30pm. Any advice as to what I should do? TIA

I wonder if you might get more help in a topic about ptty training? It's not bf that's the problem here it's the behaviour to get your attention. She might be trying to get your attention during nappy changes, or cooking dinner or whatever. It just so happens she's chosen when you bf.

Have you considered using a potty instead of the loo? Some children are scared of the poo going down that big drop, or the splashing. Some children start by doing a poo into a potty with a nappy lining it. Have you tried having her naked from the waist down at home? Lots of children will happily poo in pants because they are like a nappy, but onto the carpet is a different thing entireley. If that's too radical, what about putting her just in trousers with no pants underneath for a similar sort of effect?

Good luck

I would also suggest minimal attention to the behaviour you don't want. Just say "poos go in the potty" (don't get into a long diatribe or debate) and then clean her up with as little fuss as you can muster.

Thanks for your ideas Brolly. Have also posted in Potty Training but just thought others who had bf'd might have had similar experience.

I have no advice, but I feel your pain!

I am BF a 3month old and my 2.5yr old has decided she doesn't want nappies anymore. In fact she has decided she doesn't want nappies, knickers, the potty or the toilet depending on the day or what mood takes her.

Anyway, just wanted to show solidarity. I am so far managing not to get annoyed with her, but I just wish she would get on with it because she is perfectly capable. I've just started a sticker chart, she got very excited about the first one but doesn't seem to care about getting any more.