Please help stressed mum and whingey non sleeping , non eating,constantly bf toddler

[ComeWhineWithMe]

I have posted about DD before but things are getting worse and I need advice.

She is 15 months now and hardly eats I am still breastfeeding a lot every day and most nights and I am knackered and my boobs hurt all the time.

She refuses to eat most things and lives on raisins ,dried apricots and the occasional bowl of tomato soup.

I am so tired and stressed she hates me being away from her and cries if anyone tries to cuddle her.
I am always holding,feeding and listening to her cry.
We had our first evening out on Saturday since she was born and we were called up at 9.50pm to come home because she was screaming the house down.

Help!

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Hi 'comewhinewithme',
it sounds like she needs a lot of comfort and is not willing to let go. My LO is 19 months now and she started to eat properly just a few months ago, I would not worry too much about it.

Are you co-sleeping or is she in a separate room?

DS is 14 mths and hardly eats solid food. Mostly plain yoghurt. Is there such a thing as a "slow weaner" or am I just clutching at straws?
I managed to stop all night feeding when he was 11 mths old. I just simply stopped feeding between 11pm and 4am. He did not really complain. Now it's between 10pm and 5am or 6am, depending on when he wakes up. He doesn't sleep through the night by any means, though.
My HV seems to think all this is perfectly normal, even though DS is hardly growing now.
He also gets very upset without me. It always has to be me who settles him at night when he wakes.

Sounds like you could do with an all expenses paid trip to anywhere for some P&Q (Peace & Quiet).

The one good piece of advice I got from my HV was this: If you know you're DC's crying is not through hunger(just been fed), pain(teething), discomfort(wet/soiled nappy), temperature(not too hot/cold) and safe, then you don't really need to tend to her every whimper. HV said that kids need to learn to entertain themselves and that in turn, will take their mind off you for a while (maybe long enough for you to get a bath/cuppa etc).

If I went upstairs for a shower, I'd take DS with me, put stairgate on and let him crawl around. Singing in the shower worked wonders(the voice soothes them).