Help me stop night feeds for 1yo ds

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DS is almost 1, he was sleeping through till he was 5 mo (very lucky I know), then teething started and he wakes and wants to feeds 3 or 4 times a night. Plus dd gets up at 5.30am so I'm not getting much sleep.

I know the night feeds are effecting his daytime eating, I've tried to rock him to sleep or sing to him but neither works.

I don't want to do controlled crying, I can't leave my child in a room screaming it drives me insane. I don't mind sitting with him but I have no idea how to do this.

Can someone tell me how they did it?

Oh, I don't expect him to sleep through the night and he may need 1 feed, so any advice welcome.

My DS is one next week - but he is sleeping through and wakes 3-4 times a night. He was having feeds until 2 weeks ago but they weren't affecting his daytime eating. He's on the 75th centile so he is a perfectly healthy weight. I started offering him water at night and he does take some of it then will go straight to sleep after and have his first feed about 6-7am.

He still wakes up though for a cuddle though! I can't do cc either and either rub his back in his cot until he goes off or he comes into bed with me.

Should be NOT sleeping through!

Sounds similar, I think I'll try and offer water tonight.... am nervous he'll scream and wake up dd.

I'll also watch with interest.

DS2 is nearly 1 and always wakes up at about 9pm (no feed, just dummy and back rub) and then by 1pm (feed and bring him into bed, where he subsequently feeds maybe another once or twice a night).

His cot is still in our room, chicken and egg situation where a) am so tired the only thing keeping me sane is the co-sleeping at night and haven't the energy to do anything to change the pattern and b) possibly feeds and wakes because of the easy access to feeds.

He is around 50th centile. Hasn't got a massive appetite in day, but isn't bad. Has about 3 breast feeds a day as well.

I also can't do controlled crying, but equally if I try and comfort him, he gets terribly upset if I don't feed him. I think what we're going to do in September (after holidays) is to put him in his room, and DH will see to him at night wakings.

Have to admit though that am really really reluctant in some respects to do this. On the one hand, the extra sleep will be marvellous. ON the other, he is such a jolly soul and the idea of upset caused makes me quail. Also, and I think this is a biggie.... he is my last child (3rd). There will be no more babies, and I do rather think that I'm delaying the separation at night because he's so bloody lovely and I'll never have another baby. :(

Yes - I know the feeling [tired and desperate emoticon]. He didn't take water straight away but I started offering it first before giving him milk so even if he took a little bit he would be less reliant on milk to get him back to sleep.

I think with my DS that it was just a habit rather than hunger tbh.

Good luck

Okay so there's a few of us in this boat, Pooka I just tried to put ds to bed without feeding and he screamed so much he was sick.

It's going to be a long night for me I think.

I have just had the same problem with DD. She turned 1 last Tuesday and funny enough she was sleeping through at night since she was 8 months old. Then something happen and she swapped her feed of 6pm to 3pm. This lasted till two weeks ago when feeling very tired one night when she wake up I told her that milk was for the day and she wasn't having any. I did offer her some water instead. It took me 1hour and 30minutes for her to go back to sleep but at the end she did it (I stayed with her in her room till she went to sleep). The following night she didn't wake up, I did reminder her at tea time that I was going to breastfeed her before going to bed but she wouldn't have any milk at night.

Nevertheless she still wakes up some nights for a drink of water and goes back to sleep. She still has 3-4 breastfeeds during the day but at least she does not need one any more at night.

I can really know what all of you are going through and feeling as I have been there and it feels really tiring. Children understand more than we think and obviusly DD understood me when I said that milk is only for the day.

Hope this gives all of you some light at the end of the tunel. Good luck

Well I've just got ds down for the night. Fed him, and then like for the last few nights, he didn't fall asleep while feeding but has started trying to use me like a comforter - rubbing his face on my tummy, stuffing his head into my armpit, trying to get to sleep on me. So I read him a story and then put him in the cot. He was ok. Then kept standing up and getting increasingly agistated. I sat on chair next to his bed and just kept laying him back down, saying "shush". And eventually he stopped standing back up and fell asleep, rubbing the sheet.

Not sure what'll happen later. TBH I think I'll see how I feel about feeds. Usually am so sleepy it's the path of least resistance. BUt he did have a simply enormous supper, so perhaps that helped?

I've just seen this on another thread. Has anyone tried it?

Yes, I did the Pantly Pull Off with my DD. But she had serious sleep issues, another long story altogether.

So last night tried to put ds to sleep in his cot but he got so upset he was sick. So I cuddled him to sleep instead.

I was prepared to be up hugging him instead of feeding him through the night. But amazingly he slept from 7.20pm till 5am without waking.

I suspect it was because when he was sick he brought up mostly gas and I know it does disturb him.

So I'm a bit dazed, it was all a bit easy, he'll probably be awake all night tonight

Wow! That's great - fingers crossed for tonight.

My DS woke at 9pm (lost dummy), 12.15 (cuddle) and then slept until 5am and had a feed and went back to sleep until 7am. That's pretty good for us!

Might try the PPO because I'm sure that he's waking because of lost dummy. Well either that, or securing dummy to his ears with elastic bands!

Neither of mine would take dummies, was probably a good thing in the long run.

Elastic bands is quite tame compared to some material bib thing this woman was trying to sell as a dummy holder, can't find the link but it was truely awful.