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It's a miracle- I am at 6months breastfeeding already! :)

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Thandeka · 06/08/2010 19:28

I had the shitest possible start to breastfeeding and honestly it is a miracle I am still breastfeeding my DD. It honestly is the hardest thing I have ever done and also the thing I am most proud of achieving! (And now I know what to answer in a job interview if they ever ask that question!).

I scribbled some of the barriers to breastfeeding on a thread before when DD was 3 weeks old- but then MORE came up (lucky me! Confused).

So sorry I just have to post the list again plus the additions because I would quite like a little pat on the back from all you lovely mnetters, just to help me make it to 1 year (or more maybe)!

  1. Breast reduction 9 years ago (large reduction 7lbs taken out- one nipple doesnt function so well)- not even sure if I can breastfeed until I tried. HCP's all know this and assume am going to fail at breastfeeding so negative from outset.

  2. Flat nipples so baby can't latch on without the discovery of fabulous nipple shields (genetic issue but not helped by reduction), then had to wean her off them gradually so incase they affected supply. By 6 weeks she was feeding without them.

  3. Extremely raumatic delivery and baby in NICU for first 5 days- no cuddles for first 24 hours of baby's life, limited skin to skin- tricky with all tubes etc. Baby was oxygen starved (possible damage) and initially showed poor suck reflex but that improved within a day or so.

  4. Baby being tube fed my EBM every hour means baby full and has no interest in latching- keeps falling asleep at the boob- i have to maintain these nasogastric top ups but once they are reduced to three hourly I can sometimes also get her latched for a feed. Except I also still have to pump and invariably she gets hungry just after I have expressed and there is no more milk! Breastfeeding support at hospital limited (lactation consultant promised everyday and never materialised) had help from speech and language therapist with latch though which was fantastic.

  5. Baby has to have MRI, she is sedated with suppositories she keeps pooing out (effectively enemas)- she ends up going without a feed for 6 hours (at 8days old and already lost 10% of weight) due to the sedation, I pump in meantime but this mucks up the baby hungry, mums boobs full thing again plus difficult to get her feeding due to sedation. Loses yet more weight due to the "enemas".

  6. by day 7 breastfeeding was still a massive struggle as we had to always give her nasogastric tube 32ml top up every three hours and it was always at a time which caused her to fall asleep and not be awake for a feed. We hated that nasal tube and so did she - used to pull on it during breast feeds and would look uncomfy during top ups. So in the end we had to say no more tube feeds and do her top ups with a syringe in mouth (easyish) or cup (good skill to learn but spilt everywhere and resulted in very windy baby). This was kind of against medical advice as they wanted to keep tube feeds going but we persevered and as a result breastfeeding was able robe established must better basically because we stopped trying to work to nasal tube feed times and did three hourly breastfeeds plus top ups instead. The doctors were all freaking out and saying she is a big baby and you won't sustain he'd etc but it's what we had to do. With hindsight I think if more breastfeeding support had been available at hospital we would have figured out how to sync up the tube and breastfeeds but we aren't medical people so were just following instructions until they really stopped working for us but is scary to go against medical advice!

  7. First week after leaving hospital (12days old) Baby loses 14% of bodyweight in total (not helped my mri enemas etc). Sent to hospital for dehydration check- supoosed to take an hour- takes 7 (and results come back fine). I don?t have enough to eat or drink and feeding is tricky in hospital as doesn't have pillow etc, and its not home. Anyhow of her 14%weight loss the majority of that was in hospital and after her enema. She did still lose a tiny bit more once we went against medical advice with not tube feeding her, but it wasn't massive and her weight is now fine so it was the right but scary decision for us. Really had to battle with hospital not to readmit us (I would have lost my mind- being completely loopy from the 8days in hospital the week before)

  8. Baby put on intense regime of feeds- Every 3 hours -feed at breast, give 40ml top up, then pump next feeds top up then sterilise everything for next feed. We don't stop with the top ups really for about 10weeks.

  9. Baby is really slow to gain weight (6weeks to regain birthweight). Have to give a formula top up sometimes as don't have enough EBM.

  10. For first week of her life she had a canula in her arm for her antibiotics. This made feeding on the right breast very difficult as this sore arm would get in way and hurt her if positioned wrong and she didn't seem to feed as well in the rugby ball hold. creates supply issues in right breast.

  11. (just so I can make it 10 hurdles!!) Tongue tie discovered and snipped at 7 weeks- before this feeds could take up to two hours and were pretty relentless. Had bad cracked nipples that made me want to throw DD across the room with the pain and unfortunately post tongue tie snip meant dd had to relearn her latch and completely knacker my nipples again. Then also got infection in nip so it wouldn't heal. I had painful feeding from 10days to 16 weeks as a result (varying from agony and tears to grit teeth and curl toes. if it was agony all the time I would have definitely given up- as it was I just wore my teeth down from all the gritting!

For me breastfeeding wasn't easy or painfree until DD was 16weeks old and although it took weeks to wean dd off the formula top ups she is now predominantly bfed (bottle formula at bedtime as supply never got up to full capacity) so am a little bit proud of how far we have come (and almost never want to wean her because having finally got her going on the boob I don't want her to ever stop!- Although I probably draw the line at bfeeding a 12 year old!)

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Thandeka · 06/08/2010 19:28

oops that was a long post- sorry should have warned in thread title.

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strawberrycake · 06/08/2010 19:41

You deserve a medal! You're an impressive woman. Yes, I'm being serious! You deserve a bit of praise :-)

Brasso4 · 06/08/2010 19:42

Well done, Thandeka!

I have just made it to 6 months too and although my first few weeks were not anywhere near as traumatic as yours and your LO, it was still quite stressful.

MrsJamin · 06/08/2010 19:44

wow - you've been through so much - well done for continuing on the BF - hope you have managed to fit in some of the wonderful benefits of BF - happy milky cuddles, and the convenience in the months to come.

nowherewoman · 06/08/2010 19:45

Fucking hell, well done! Don't think I could have carried on. You must be very determined and single mimded.

CharCharGabor · 06/08/2010 19:49

You rock! Grin Well done!

pixierara · 06/08/2010 19:51

yeah Grin well done you!

Thandeka · 06/08/2010 19:51

I worked out at about 6weeks the ONLY reason I was being so bloody minded about it was the fact that I felt such incredible guilt around her birth and not being able to push her out, resulting in the oxygen starvation- so breastfeeding was my way of making it up to her. I was aware at the time it was a shite reason but it was the only thing that kept me going (have had counselling since and am reconciled with it all now- but ELCS next time! Grin). I don't feel guilty anymore at all but am kind of glad I did feel like that in a way as otherwise I would have given up very early on!

And yes I love the milky cuddles (even the middle of the night) and DD's tiny hand snuggle d contentently in my cleavage, and the not having to worry too much about bottles etc, breastfeeding is awesome (and really helped me bond with DD as I couldn't really while she was in NICU - she felt like a random yet cute stranger who I had to help out with until we left hospital.

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crikeybadger · 06/08/2010 19:52

Well done Thandeka, you surely get the gold medal for breastfeeding. You really have been very determined. Having gone through all that, hope you can relax and enjoy now for quite a few more months to come.

rainbowweaver · 06/08/2010 19:56

not many people could have continued in those circumstances. Well done! Now it's time to reap the benefits as breastfeeding while weaning takes the stress out of how much solids your LO is eating... as she can top up with breast milk if she doesn't care for the solids of the day.

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 06/08/2010 19:57

Well done both of you. What an amazing story and what an amazing mummy dd has Smile

mrspear · 06/08/2010 20:02

Well done. I am also a proud breastfeeder! DS was born 10 weeks early so you can only imagine the issues we had - although my boobs were ok once the milk came; thanks to the midwives!

And the only reason i carried on through the difficult weeks was because of the guilt that my body failed him by not getting to 40 weeks.

Thandeka · 06/08/2010 20:07

Brasso4- hurrah for doing the time for 6months too. Whatever the story Breastfeeding is HARD fullstop (yet no-one mentioned that when pregnant!)

MrsPear- it is funny how we feel such guilt isnt it even though it was NOTHING in our control, maybe its an evolutionary thing- feel guilt for a shite birth to help breastfeed- though then again in the past maternal or infant deaths would have happened instead so probably not an evolution thing! but Yay for sticking it out for whatever reason.

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moondog · 06/08/2010 20:09

Fantastically uplifting story.Thanks for posting and bloody hell, well done-to both of yuo!

BalloonSlayer · 06/08/2010 20:11

BLOODY HELL

I am profoundly impressed. I would be less impressed if you had climbed Everest without supplementary oxygen. Seriously.

(When I had DD, in the next bed to me was a very sad Mum who had had 2 DCs and then, deciding her family was complete, had had a breast reduction. She was told it was impossible to BF after a reduction. She then got pregnant accidentally and was miserable at having to FF her new baby. Shame she didn't know you, you could have given her a few tips!)

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GetThePartyStarted · 06/08/2010 20:19

Well done Thandeka, you have done really well :)

Thandeka · 06/08/2010 20:19

Balloonslayer- trust me there were times when I would have preferred to be climbing everest- naked with thistles for shoes!

And SHAME on the doc for telling the women that. I had mine done at 19 and did a lot of research in breastfeeding before that as I really wanted to breastfeed even then. I found out it is basically 50-50 whether you can breastfeed after a reduction and depends on lots of factors. Depends how many ducts you had to start with and how many you end up with. Most women have to supplement (as I did but I am going to give a good shot at EBF with any susequent DC having learnt so much from this "adventure").

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Emster30 · 06/08/2010 20:21

WOW! Well done, you are a complete inspiration to a struggling new BFer with none of those hurdles!

Thandeka · 06/08/2010 20:28

Emster30- I feel a bit bad when people say that but already people have told me they have stuck with breastfeeding because they figure if I can do it with my crap start then they have to carry on as they haven't got as much to complain about! Yikes I don't want to guilt anyone into anything, but then if it helps someone else then so be it! Just do whatever is best for you and LO. The way I see it is everyone has different tolerance levels and just go with it until you can't. :)
P.S I noseyed at your profile and saw you are quite near me- so if you need me to point you in direction of support- just shout!

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WoTmania · 06/08/2010 21:12

You are FABULOUS. What a committed and determined person you are!

FlipFantasia · 06/08/2010 21:14

Well done Thandeka Grin [virtually pats you on the back]

I find it inspirational that you overcame a lot to breastfeed. And I'm glad you've posted about it as your story can hopefully help future lurkers/posters who search the archive.

gingerkirsty · 06/08/2010 21:20

I am officially giving you A MASSIVE ROUND OF APPLAUSE!!!

You should be very very proud of yourself, you are a true hero :)

giraffesCanDanceInTheSun · 06/08/2010 21:32

well done

Fibilou · 06/08/2010 21:39

Well done Thandeka, your DD is the same age as mine, I thank my lucky stars that my only BFing hurdle was a bit of mastitis. You certainly deserve some sort of medal for feeding against the odds - the pressure and temptation to FF must have been immense

Fibilou · 06/08/2010 21:41

"And yes I love the milky cuddles (even the middle of the night) and DD's tiny hand snuggle d contentently in my cleavage,"

Amazing, isn't it ! I don't even mind getting up for the 3am feed as I get to see DDs adorable smiling face and watch her feed peacefully then fall asleep while still attached. I will be devastated when the time comes to stop BFing