Constant poo, feed refusual, wits end. Ideas? Help?

[strawberrycake]

I'm on the hunger strike support thread but wanted to see if anyone else had advice.

DS is pooing during or straight after EVERY feed. He has gained no weight in 3 weeks since his 6 week check and is really under-eating. Been diagnosed with reflux but is there more too it? A and E said diarrhea was due to a virus, it's cleared massively in the sense it doesn't run anywhere but still WAY too much (gone from 2 nappies a day dirty to between 10-14). At A&E he was dehydrated from the combination of the refusual and diarrhea (literally yellow water constantly running out of his bum then). Most nappies now are full too, I'm not talking smears. Big squirt sound too as they rush out.
Feeds today (he's 11 weeks and 11lb)
7am-100ml
11am-80ml
2.30-80ml
6pm-50ml
Some days more than others. Tonight we're back to sudden hysterical red in the face screaming from a calm baby. He doesn't eat at all 7pm - 7am even with attempted dream feeds.

We have gaviscon and he's ff (don't judge me, I tried bf for 6 weeks but it's hard enough getting a bottle in him let alone latching him, expressed until my milk slowly dried up). Gaviscon makes a difference with reflux, less screaming and squirming but doesn't get him eating more or solving the poo. He often ends up finishing a feed early as he's disturbed by poo then won't eat again for hours after. He's on SMA, which he had no issue with until all this madness started at 6 weeks. He was gaining weight very well, had crept up from 50th to 75th percentile. BTW he's the 99,6th percentile for length so long and thin.

I'm reaching the end of my last nerve. I've pushed for another GP appointment tomorrow. IS there anything I can ask for? Does anyone have experience of this? Any ideas or advice?

oh you poor thing. i have no idea but i didnt want you to go unanswered! you need to get the runs sorted out! i don't know how though. sorry!

Just an extra, he has no issue with wind. Easy burper. Otherwise very calm happy (but bit sleepy). Just feeding time madness and screaming. Otherwise bit of an angel.

how is he napping? my DS used to go bananas and have a complete meltdown if he didn't sleep! red face arms flailing etc...

have you got a sling - a walk might stop the screaming?

Very good sleeper (bar 15min after a feed). HE's super ratty if tired but pops off instantly once laid down. Sleeps through night. HE runs on a clockwork schedule so eay to know when he's tired. I spot the signs now so no fuss for sleep anymore.

Ruby, it stops easily 10 min after feed and pain stops. Really no hassle with screaming normally. Lying on his left or his swing calms it.

oh ok.

so maybe the poorly tummy will just have to pass !? I'm sure someone with good advce will be along soon!

I hope so ruby. It's getting to be a long time for such a small man.

He is a lovely easy 'good' baby. It starts when I approach with a bottle (you could leave him all day without him demanding food so demand feeding is NOT good for him). Otherwise he is soooo chilled, will lie around smiling or sit quietly in his bouncy chair for an hour at a time. I feel so bad when he does scream because I know it takes a lot to get him screaming. It's just not sustainable this not eating business and the poo really is worrying me now (It's been 8 days now).

My DS had severe diarrhea at around 8 months (he was being FF and was weaned). We tried rehydration sachets etc etc but nearly 3 weeks later he still had it. Eventually spoke to GP who suggested we cut milk out of his diet for 2 days and fed him rehydration sachets, baby rice mixed with mashed banana only and that cleared it - but obviously your DS is too young for this approach so you are right to push to see GP.

GP soon, and I'm about to try the first feed of the day...
Wish I coud say I'm looking forward to the feed.

Been prescribed soya milk today. Very mixed feelings.

He has always had crazy poo issues (green/ vinegar you think of it he's done it) but I'm confused as he gained well. THis did really kick off though when I stopped mixed feeding. Could it be an answer?

Is it a temporary thing? Didn't really think to ask much, I'll try anything at the moment and wasn't really thinking ahead.

Now I feel REALLY shit I never got going with bf, had a cry earlier. I know others have achieved it in similar circumstances and pushed through the distress/ tiredness. I really really wanted to. I'm beating myself up with what if's, what if I'd found proper support? BAsically I was unlucky with a chain of events - no milk for 6 days, no midwife visit after I left hospital as hospital misplaced discharge form, baby passing tiny orange pees and screaming with hunger, noone to help me get a latch, a baby that screamed within seconds of latching starting it all again. I've fought bloody hard just to get a bottle in, never managed to bf aside from the odd minute of latching after 40min of trying. Tried to exclusively express but milk slowly went down and down. Now I know things like where to find support, that hospital grade pumps could have helped etc. I was just too wrecked after a shit delivery and a week in hospital with a baby that screamed 24/7 I caved into the bottle on day 7. HE still screamed day and night but at least began to wee/ gain weight. HE went from 8 4lb to 7lb 5 in a week of bf, then to 9lb 6 the following week with expressing/ formula top ups. Intially I produced around 100ml per express, this dwindled to 10ml by 6 weeks. Plus I spent every moment he slept expressing, he barely slept at all, I would often not sleep between any feeds. He feed every 2 hours for 60min with slow on-off red face screaming fits in between every 20ml, then I expressed for 20min and spent another 20min cleaning equipment, preparing formula top up to add to amount...then he would be awake screaming..