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Should I stop BF?

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MrsSawdust · 31/07/2010 18:46

My DD is almost 2 yrs. In September I am going back to work full time and DH is taking over as a SAHD. I still bf on demand, plus anytime I want to get her to sleep. She demands it very often just for comfort or snack (3+ times a day on top of feeding to sleep)

DH has looked after her on his own for full days before and generally the lack of bf isn't an issue. If I'm not available she doesn't ask for milk. So I didn't have any plans to stop bf just because of the impending change in our working roles. I had intended to go for natural term breast feeding.

DH (and me to some extent) is concerned though because sometimes (such as the last couple of days) she shows a massive preference for me. She won't accept cuddles from him, cries for me if I'm out of sight and he can't do anything to comfort her. It stresses him out and makes him worry about how he'll cope as a SAHD.

He has suggested that perhaps I should stop bf her now so that he can strengthen his bond with her and he can offer her exactly the same as I could if I was with her during the day. (I would like to point out that dh has been very supportive and pro-breast feeding right from the start)

So, should I stop? Would it help the two of them establish their new stay at home relationship? How do you go about weaning a very milk orientated and demanding 2yr old? And how the heck am I ever going to get her to sleep???

Thanks if you read all that.

OP posts:
slushy · 31/07/2010 19:15

I would not stop children naturally seem to favor SAHP for bedtimes and falling or cuddles and WP for playing. I stopped bf my ds over a year and half ago and he still favors me for the above things.

Once your partner is home I think he will find she will naturally start to go to him more.

WoTmania · 31/07/2010 20:21

I found my DSs got very 'clingy' (I hate the term but can't think of a better one) around the 2yr mark. DS1 was only BF til just over a year and DS2 is still BF at 3. DD has yet to reach that age but I'm expecting her to be the same. However, as soon as DH gets home it's all about him. So I would echo Sluchy's point about WOHP being for playing.
So, in short, I reckon it's just 'one of the phases'

Maybe it would be worth trying to speak to some other SAHDs of BF children if you can find them?

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