FFS I am not a freak

[pipsy76]

Warning the following thread is MIL related...............

So MIL very kindly has looked after my boys for 2 hours at short notice this morning so I could help DH with his new office move however...this entitled her to give me the following lecture on BF DS2 16months.........When are you going to stop, you really should stop now you know, he is far too old to be BF, you are doing it for yourself.

Yes I could have spouted the WHO guidelines but I doubt shes even heard of them, so I went for the penguins of Madagascar technique, just nod and smile boys, nod and smile.

However with DH starting to spout similar sentiments the nodding and smiling may progress to headbutting someone soon!

I just don't get it DS loves BF I love BF him whats the problem?

other than my poor grammar!

Oh sorry seems there is a very similar thread going already, but I just needed to vent!

No of course you're not a freak!!

I'm still feeding DD who's 22 months.

I'm sure some of my and DP's families are sceptical about this but the are too scared of me to ever dare say anything

Your DH sounds like the only real problem. He should be supporting you until the time is right for you and DS to stop.

I bet when we become MIL s we will be nagging our daughters in law to keep going longer.

Its a generational thing I reckon, although that doesn`t explain your DH.

Its fucking rude to make comments like that, the smile and nod is an appropriate response to a rude old bag.

I have never understood the "you are doing it for yourself" line.

Even if you were, why is it viewed as such a bad thing?

One of the reasons I am BFing is because I know it is good for me as well as for DS.

She is from another generation and her way was 'good enough'. My mil and her sister gave me piles of advice, most of it rubbish and the only way to stop them was to say 'well, I read a book which says ....'. They nodded and shut up.

'You are doing it for yourself after x months/years'

What does that even mean?

I have heard so many people saying it, I'm almost dying ot hear it again so I can ask them what it means....

Reckon it means you want to sort of keep them a baby, infantilising them or some such TOSH.

Infantilising my infant oh dear me!

Your mil would've hated me, I bf my ds for 3 years, and tandemmd him with his baby dd who I'm still nursing at 18 months.

It's really none of her business and you need to get dh to deal with her, and get over his own blardy nonsense too.

Thanks for all of your words of support, its good to know I am not alone!

I am an adept of the Madagascar Penguins methode myself. I BF 3 out of 4dcs for two years each (DS2 refused my brest at 6 months ). Said method allowed me to get on with it as when people eventually realised I did not care much about their opinion, they stopped telling me what to do (or not to do).

Maybe go the other way and say "yes, DS really hates it but I force him as it's all about me me me". Maybe then they'll realise how ridiculous that it and pipe down

LOL

Smile and nod and be proud of all the benefits your dcs are getting. Lol at the Madagascar Penguins My ds is 12 months and I'm bracing myself for similar comments soon...