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Help !!!!!going back to work ds refuses bottle or cup for milk[sad]

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donnacb · 21/08/2005 09:20

Can people please give me advise my ds has been breast feeding for 9 months and loves it. He has always refused bottles screaming while trying to give it. Also started him on a cup which he takes little fliud from. Problem is i have to go back to work 3 days a week from 7 till 20.30. also will have to do night shifts. he is allergic to milk so cheese yoghurts etc are out to increase his intake. Do I leave it for the nursery to sort. He is going to be traumatised from being away from me as we have never been seperated for my than 1 hour. i really dont know whats best. oh he starts nursery in 2 weeks. Any experiences welcome

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chipmonkey · 22/08/2005 12:04

Yes, donnacb, they are the freeze-dried ones. I also make EBM rice pudding for him. You can give it on its own or mix with fruit puree.
1/4 cup ground rice (not baby rice but the stuff you get near flour/ semolina etc in the supermarket)
1 cup EBM
Mix together and bring to the boil till it thickens, about 5-10 min, stirring all the time.
My ds prefers this to baby rice, don't know why!

chipmonkey · 22/08/2005 12:06

BTW, my ds was totally unconvinced by the breastbottle, he did suck on it but would then scream and pull away. And I had been so sure it would be the answer to my prayers!

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donnacb · 22/08/2005 13:34

Thanks evryone. will try rice pudding. Need to go shopping so will look for pudding rice. will perservere with cup and see what nursery suggest. If worst come to worst and could drive to the nursery in my lunch hour and feed him. but not sure if that will just upset him again when i leave.

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supersonic · 22/08/2005 13:45

Donnacb I can completely sympathise with you! I haven't read the whole thread so apologies but I breastfed my Dd for 1.5 yrs and went back to work when she was 10 months I had tried my DD with a bottle and then a cup since she was 3 but neither worked. however when Is tarted work she seemed to take milk from the cup admittingly not much but she did but as soon as I picked her up from work I gave in and started feeding her again. Like someone else said you will be suprised what they are like when your not around. I know this is not much help but to let you know there are other people who have experienced the whole breastfeeding thing and sleep thing and as you said that is whole new thread (my DD is now 4 and the sleep thing is still going on)!!!!

Blu · 22/08/2005 13:54

donna - My ds never accepeted milk from a bottle, and I was in the sme situation as you re nursery.

I had good MN advice fromm Tiktok, who pointed out that unless they actually discover that a bottle does give them the satisfaction from hunger that the breast does, they will reject the bottle, thinking 'that's not what I'm asking for, give me breast!' and refuse to suck. So it can help to try a bottle at a time when they are NOT at all hungry.

But in the end, DS relied on solids at nursery - everything he had was mixed with expressed b/m - veg and fruit puree, babyrice etc. And a little milk in a cup. The he fed like a demon night and mornings.

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donnacb · 22/08/2005 14:00

Thanks supasonic and blu its nice to know they have survived. Do they enjoy nursery?

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Blu · 22/08/2005 14:06

DS was as happy as anything at nursery.
I think even being away for tiny periods of time is good - it helps them realise that you go away, you come back. I think often and short is a good way to beat separation anxiety - but once they feel happy and settled at nursery, there should be no problem.

It's SO hard, though, isn't it? I must admit that I look back on the whole 'not drinking' crisis and go cold all over.

But you'll be ok.

Seren00 · 22/08/2005 14:23

Hello
I was in a similar situation with my dd.
Went back to work at 7m tho - and she refused point-blank to take any bottles. And to add to my hysteria I had only just begun to wean her onto solids so didn't know what she liked to eat!
I just sent in loads of EBM with dd's own cup - I used the Heinz sippy cups and still do.
And I also gave them some frozen EBM for emergencies.
IME I found the nippers v adaptable and they soon work out the best way to work things out for you both.
Good luck!
xxx

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donnacb · 22/08/2005 14:30

I think now i just have to get on with it. Its nice to know that you all survived and didnt have to give up work or anything. Need to pay the mortgage. I think deep down i dont really want to go back to work. I enjoy being off with him and dont want to miss athing. well sure ill be a lot worse than he is.

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donnacb · 24/08/2005 09:55

1st setting in day was awful he cried for 75%of the time there rethinkibg amount of time at work. oh god i feel awfull what am i doing to the poor little man. well go again 2 moro see what happens.

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highlander · 24/08/2005 10:50

donna - can you not get some sick leave for another month? Given he was preemie, and allergic to milk etc, it sounds like you both could do with more home time.

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donnacb · 25/08/2005 09:34

Thats sounds wonderful unfortunately i work on the premie unit so i dont think it would work. Would love another few months at home with him but have to go back at some time. Could get time off due to stress but im sure everyone goes through this. my heart aches everytime i mention it. i know it will get better

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