i am ready to stop feeding my 2dd's. this is my plan

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my dd1 is 2.5 and dd2 is 11 months. i am ready to stop breastfeeding.

my plan is to stop feeding this week while my dd1 is on holiday with her nan for a week. i have told her that my milk will not work when she comes back. she seams to have gotten more attached since i have told her. i am not going to feed dd2 while dd1 is away. i dont think she will be too fussed. my only hope is that a week is enough for my milk to stop.

Are you stopping breastfeeding your second one just because you feel it's time for your first one to finish?

Do you really want to? Or do you just feel it would be easier not to deal with DS1's tantrums when she sees her sister being BFd?

Cos if it's that, I think you should consider just getting through the tantrums if you can bear it.

Your children are different ages and have different needs. You could quite easily sell it to DD1 as a "big girl" thing. Perhaps she could get a present if she goes a week without boob or something. At this sort of age I weaned my DS1 off his dummy by swapping it for a pair of crocs he REALLY wanted...

If you're just fed up of the whole thing, a week should really help, but I'm not sure you should go cold turkey on BFing 2 children. Agonising tit-ache and mastitis could await you....

Don't think it was totally dry up in a week, I assume you are going to go cold turkey, even so there will still be some milk there after a week. Even more so if you do some hand expressing to prevent mastitis, which I have avoided by cutting down by one feed every 3 days or so, taken three weeks to wind down.

Could you start winding down before the week before, ie not let DD2 have any that week and try and restrict DD1 as much as possible, in practise for the week away?

That was when she comes back you should have avoided the mastitis and be much dried IYSWIM.

she is going awat tomorrow so its too late to reduce gradually, tbh we have made such a big deal about it stopping she seems to be feeding more than ever the past few weeks. think i am just going to see how it goes

I would definitly recomend stopping gradually and even then it can take a long time to stop producing milk. I breastfed my second son for 22 months, being on just one feed a day for the last month or so and sometimes not every day. But I still carried on producing milk for about six months after!