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Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

To new BFing mums who dislike it, and a thank-you.

9 replies

Psammead · 14/07/2010 17:04

I hated BFing. Hated it. Every time I did it for the first two weeks, I would end up in tears and feeling like a total failure. It was so painful and uncomfortable despite being told by every medical professional who saw us feeding that the latch was fine and everything should be alright.

I felt like I was letting everyone down and that my DD would 'sense' that I disliked feeding her. Every time it got close to feeding time, I would find a million chores to do to put it off until the last possible minute.

I took advice from my midwife and started drinking fennel tea (it helped) and wrote a couple of posts here. Quite a few people gave me the advice to just take things one feed at a time. The thought of having to do it for 6 months filled me with dread. So, I took their advice.

After approx. two weeks, we turned a corner. It slowly became less painful and I started dreading it less and less. I could think in terms longer than the next feed and once or twice I even felt like I almost enjoyed it.

DD turned 6 months old on Sunday and we are still going strong with BFing. I actually love it now - and I vividly remember telling my midwife that I would never ever feel that way. She (DD, not midwife!) strokes my face as she feeds and I really look forward to it. I think the next time I end up in tears over BFing will be when the time comes to stop.

That's my story. Not intended to put down FFing, with which I have no problem - I was just very set on BFing. Also not intended to rub anyone's face in it if they have had more problems than me with BFing. I had no medical problems whatsoever. My only intent is that someone in the same position that I was 6 months ago may read this and feel encouraged to try just one more feed.

I cannot remember who posted in response to my help threads 6 months ago, but whoever it was - thank-you, from the bottom of my heart

OP posts:
MoonFaceMama · 14/07/2010 18:11

That is so lovely! Well done you! And well done all the posters who helped you.

ZuzuandZara · 14/07/2010 19:22

Well done, hope you're proud of yourself.

This is a brilliant forum.

ib · 14/07/2010 19:28

Good for you! I felt the same with ds1 - and had all sorts of problems to go with it. When we managed to sort them I carried on feeding until I was pg with ds2, and ds1 was over 2 1/2.

TBH I disliked it again in the beginning with ds2 - and there were absolutely no problems there. It's just that the first few weeks are tough! Now he's 3 mo and I'm enjoying it again.

So for any mothers in the first few weeks - hang in there. It's worth it in the end.

MassiveBumperlicious · 14/07/2010 19:30

Well done, it's tough at first but worth it in the end.

rubyslippers · 14/07/2010 19:35

What an achievement ...

Igglybuff · 14/07/2010 19:37

I felt exactly the same. Great to hear you managed to get through and are now enjoying things

TakeLovingChances · 14/07/2010 20:04

Congrats! Well done you! I'm still bfing DS who is almost 20 weeks old never thought I'd make it this far, but 6 months is in sight!

Glad to hear all is going well for you.

rubyslippers · 14/07/2010 20:05

Hi iggly ... Must get over to the PN thread

Igglybuff · 14/07/2010 20:58

I know what you mean ruby - it's hard to keep up sometimes!

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