Hi, OP here. We did end up sending our eldest daughter to Shrewsbury, and our second daughter is actually sitting for the exam today for entry in 2026. And hopefully, a third daughter will follow in 2028. We are also abroad, so pastoral care was of particularly high importance for us, as was full-boarding/not having school empty out at weekends.
We have been impressed with Shrewsbury at every turn. Pupils are encouraged to both pursue their own strengths and passions and also to take advantage of the myriad activities, societies and sport available to them. I am sure house is important, so perhaps we have landed in a good spot with a wonderful house team, but I can say that the "culture of kindness" is alive and well, and we have not heard any feedback from our daughter about girl drama, etc. In our experience, pupils are for the most part grounded, kind and happy. While she has certainly had ups and downs with distance and homesickness as she settles, she has felt thoroughly supported by peers as well as house and teaching staff, which is such a relief to parents who are far away.
She is a dancer, and is able to participate in multiple dance classes nearly every day of the week, in addition to being a part of the dance competition team. I cannot speak directly to the singing or other performing aspects, but friends with children involved in both seem to be very happy with the opportunities and quality in those areas (taking performances to Edinburgh Fringe being a highlight).
Happy to chat more over DM if you have any further questions!