Holiday Destination Dilemma

[TizerRealizer]

Polite note: I am posting on the Black MN board as I'd like to hear opinions of other Black/non-white parents.

My DH is v keen for our family's summer holiday to take place in Minnesota this year. He connected with a newly found relative who lives there 18 months ago, and really wants the opportunity to meet him sooner rather than later, as he is in his mid-70s (DH is mid-50s). We've been offered a chance to stay in their house throughout the holiday, and they seem excited at the possibility of meeting us.

The issue is my DH is white, I'm black, so our 2 DC are mixed race. They are both in their older teen years. For various practical and logistical reasons we all need to take a holiday together.

Anyway, am I right to have reservations about this, considering recent history? The relative lives 10 miles away from where the trouble spots were, BUT, if we go we'd want to visit the main parts to see the sites, etc. I really don't want DH to miss out, and we'd like our DC to meet the new relative (other relatives are nearby). Or have things calmed down now, or is there usually a sense of racial tension? Has anyone on here visited there and how did you find it?

WWYD?

@TizerRealizer

Sadly, you are not wrong to have reservations.

Thanks for the article link @Selkie33
TBH this pretty much sounds like where I live 😂😂😂😂
If this is as bad as it gets on a day-to-day basis then it wouldn't stop me visiting Minnesota. I was afraid there would be more confrontational issues judging from news stories we hear in the UK.

@TizerRealizer
I would say the reservations are there because they're really happening as we speak
Look at how with the World Cup is going and with supposedly all nations coming together, that a top qualified somali referee has been refused entry and various other countries football teams have had to jump hoops to actually be on american soil
If it were me, I wouldn't go
Don't trust ICE/police/ american racist rhetoric
Could see "brown" and become heavy handed
I'd let hubby go on his own for now
And hopefully one day, your children will eventually get there
If the american mindset changes

Yessss, @GreyBeeplus3. I'd clocked that situation, and it made me feel it'd be best to avoid going there for now. We've decided we will review the situation in a few months, with a potential to visit next summer if things have calmed down in that part of the US.

I would take the trip. I went to NY in February without the family to have a quick girls trip with my best friend who lives over there and it was totally fine. Don’t let these things stop you from enjoying yourselves. Especially in the circumstances if the relatives you want to see are old. This country itself is becoming very similar to the us in terms of overt racism and tension. No one place seems to be that much better than the other.