Advice needed *offensive speech warning*

[Trufflepizza]

My 11yr old son (white Irish) is in his first year of secondary school. I Have just been reviewing his group chats on WhatsApp as he had mentioned there was choice language that upset him. On a main WhatsApp chat with around 50 participants, most of the kids are calling each other the N word, a monkey or a gorilla. I don't know these kids, but they all seem to be black kids going by their profile pics.
My son is confused by the extremely coarse language and I'm completely shocked that this is a way of talking to each other.
My question is, is this standard behaviour and what is the appropriate response from my son? I think he should leave the group, but he wants to call out the behaviour.
I appreciate the sensitivity of this post and hope that it's received in the same manner. Am gratefully seeking guidance.

I think this board exists for black MNers to discuss issues relevant to them, not for you to ask for their advise about the 'black kids'.

@mumsnet please delete my post.

Word reclamation

This is a relevant post and should stay!
Use it as an education for all involved, not judgement.

If he is offended by the words he should report hate speech. Hate speech is based on perception and feelings of those affected.

The trick I learnt from another secondary aged child, who then told her mother, is to remove yourself from such chat groups immediately when crap and offensive language starts flying around.

Tell your DS to remove himself immediately. Those who want his phone number have got it.

He can report it if he feels up to it but he needs to ensure he's not a member of such groups.

Yeah, I think this is it. Thank you

sadly, this is very normal around teen kids now, London is even worse and I blame the urban/hip hop culture. I am 35, i do not even use such words but i see my 9 yead DS's whatsapp messages, it's disgusting but sadly they do not see an issue with it. I would get him off the groups