Seriously … WTF?

[Gruelle]

After years of head hitting brick wall repeatedly, people are - now - saying ‘yes’ to me.

Tiny, insignificant career things, that I’ve wanted forever. But not just one thing. Several. And no conferring between the grantors of these various gifts.

Am I Suddenly Prettier?

(It’s discombobulating because - suddenly - simply shrugging away possibilities without even trying becomes the riskier move.)

Just feels weird.

Is this happening to you?

Really? No one else raising an eyebrow over the effect of the past eighteen months on their own wider popularity?

Why would you think your looks are anything to do with career success?

I really don't know what you mean - your post is discombobulating.

What effects of the past eighteen months? Did Retrograde go into Mercury [I know] and we're all supposed to expect something to happen? Do you mean the pandemic affected your 'wider popularity'? You may have to be a bit specific about what's not happened before but started happening now.

But if doors are opening for you, then that's great. Walk through them. There's a time and season for everything. This is yours.

Who’s more popular? Why are you thinking you’re suddenly prettier? Strange post.

Is your post aimed at women in general?

AgathaX, I posted on this board, so naturally assumed it would be read by people - mostly and perhaps most specifically women - who generally post here. (As well as elsewhere on MN!)

Do you mean the impact of Black Lives Matter OP? There is a good BBC documentary series that talks about this phenomenon (called ‘do black lives still matter?’) of suddenly being presented with opportunities that have been withheld for years and of how jarring that is (even where the outcome is positive).

This makes sense. If it's what the OP means, I've noticed it around me in general. Not me specifically.

I know what you mean, having been passed over for many years for opportunities or treated a certain way, now following BLM people seem to finally be making what feels like token gestures, because if they really saw us as equals this would have been the case before the media having to highlight it.

@Gruelle

Really? No one else raising an eyebrow over the effect of the past eighteen months on their own wider popularity?

I've had a shit eighteen months. So have many women on here and elsewhere. So not sure of your riddle?

Glad things are working for you. Are you black? If you are, to think the world has realistically changed for black women, in eighteen months, is truly naive.

Several days ago a group of white teenagers threw bricks at our vehicle with two little girls in. Six pm in the town centre. So no, not feeling it myself.

If you are black, and you're getting on because of your abilities, then that's rreally great.

But don't be anyone's token appointment. Disaster.

Perhaps the OP could say what she means instead of the rest of us guessing?

It would be helpful.

@EchoNan thats truly awful. I am so so sorry. So sorry.
OP, I haven't noticed this around me so not to my knowlege. What I have heard from more than one white folk is "try being a white man in your 50s these days" in a woe is me pitiful voice. My response is "how the hell dare you".

@Lndnmummy. Thanks.
Re the fifty year old white man stuff whinger, I've found that those types really froth at the mouth if you suggest that they might be " old stock".
There is a certain sort who just love to bleat if they see new faces somewhere that don't match theirs.

Example. The bleating about some younger black Sky sports presenters. I love seeing Ebony Rainford-Brent reporting on the cricket, or Micah Richards on the football. They bring fresh air to the match analyses.
More please of these!

@EchoNan so terribly sorry to hear that happened to your family. I hope the dc ( your dgd?) are ok.

@Gruelle honestly if you would like clearer answers, please pose clearer questions/ comments.

@Orchidflower1 We are doing ok thanks, at the time I couldn't ring 999 on my phone my hands were shaking so much. By the time I got through, they were well away. The girls (dgd) are ok now, but were scared when it happened. Lovely of you to ask, and hope you are all moving forward too.

(As for the OP, well they didn't return, which speaks volumes really, a fishing expedition of some kind I guess}

Fishing? No, not at all.

It didn’t seem worth returning because it was clear I wasn’t going to get the conversation I’d hoped for. Two posters grasped what I meant, the rest was noise, so I just shrugged my shoulders and moved on.

Bit surprised and disappointed, but it’s a conversation I’m having in real life, anyway - so it doesn’t matter …

Yup. Fishing expedition. An account of a racist attack is hardly "noise" to another black person.

Please stop. I obviously wasn’t including the incident EchoNan related under ‘noise’.

We’ve had a trying weekend on this board - (I spent a ridiculous amount of time reporting posts to MNHQ and having the not very satisfying satisfaction of seeing posts and threads deleted) - so I understand why people might be … jumpy. But when I started this thread nearly two weeks ago I really had wanted a conversation about one particular phenomenon. Not to be spoken down to like a child, or to have said phenomenon explained to me in words of one syllable. After all the decades I’ve spent on earth I’m more than aware that several different things can happen at once. I too have had a shit eighteen months which I won’t be sharing here - maybe most of us have, one way or another. But I wanted to talk about a specific thing and that hasn’t happened.

You've now returned to a thread after two weeks to tell us you didn't get the answers you wanted. And you are exhausted from reporting posts ? Okaaaaay

Lord!

Not ‘answers’, TheBlackDarner - I said ‘conversation’. (I do know the thread you’re obliquely referring to, though. That was the level of engagement I was hoping for here.)

And definitely didn’t say I was ‘exhausted’ by MN interactions this weekend!

I’m up because I woke up worrying about stuff, and saw there was a new post here. So I responded. No particular interest in reviving the thread. Zero interest in spending any more of tonight defending myself on the Internet! (I won’t ask why you are up, gatekeeping MN threads, at this time of night - because I’ve found myself doing the same, far too often.)

No interest in reviving the thread?
Yet here you are, leaping from your bed worriedly in the middle of the night to reply after two weeks of ignoring requests for clarification of a somewhat incoherent op.

Best rest up, you do indeed sound overly stressed. Such a pity we didn't rise to your expectations of us.