Aibu to ask how much your wedding was all together?

[Ivyiris]

Just looking for rough comparisons in past few years, what type of venue and how many guests? Any regrets also?

My dad bless him paid a large chunk. What o regret is not making it clear that overseas visitors would need to pay for their own travel. I assumed they would- they did not.

6k, venue, dress, hotel etc. We’re getting married abroad... no guests just me and my partner

Around 10k. 30 guests at the ceremony, 100 at the reception. Paid for guests hotel rooms as well as normal stuff like flowers, dress, venue etc.

My preference was to elope but OH wanted a wedding. I wouldn't say I regret it because we had a great day, but it would have been cheaper and just as special to elope!

Ours cost 60k , it was a great day. We had 500 guests which was partly the reason for the high cost. Realistically though, you don't need to spend that much on 1 day.

It's more important to focus on the marriage than the wedding.

@CollegeDoctor86

Ours cost 60k , it was a great day. We had 500 guests which was partly the reason for the high cost. Realistically though, you don't need to spend that much on 1 day.

It's more important to focus on the marriage than the wedding.

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£13k 18 years ago. And that was meant to be a cheap wedding. I got the cake from M&S and decorated it myself, for example (their Celebration Cake- 3 tiers and with white icing, meant for weddings and christenings but only about £50 iirc)

Looking back, I would rather we had put £13k towards our life together and just eloped, but there were societal expectations. The today me would have said sod it and kept my money, but I was 25, naive and lacking in confidence. I'm guessing the same wedding would be £25k+ today.

How much do YOU want to spend, OP? Everything to do with weddings is expensive. You'd be better off telling suppliers it's for a party. They hear the word 'wedding' and the price gets multiplied

There were a lot of guests, but I can't remember exactly. Had a Nigerian buffet for the evening guests, which was reasonably priced, but the sit down meal for the church guests was £££

Got married 10 years ago and it cost about £9k; £6k for actual wedding (venue, food, flowers & decorations, wedding dress etc) and £3k for honeymoon including spending money. We had approx 80 for the wedding service and another 30 for the reception.

I budgeted £10k all in so was glad to have come under budget. I would also suggest spending/setting aside a 1/3 of your budget for your honeymoon, if you can. So glad we did this, as we had an amazing 2 weeks away and since then we've never spent that amount of money on a holiday, especially now we've got kids.

Around 40k. 500 guests.

Wouldn't recommend it. Would not do it again

Oh, I didn't account for the honeymoon in my figures. We went to the Maldives, so it was pricey. Definitely don't regret the Maldives....it was amazing!

@HmmmmmmInteresting how many guests did you have?

@Honeybee2021 I can't actually remember, because it was so long ago, but something makes me want to say 50 for the sit down then hundreds for the evening. But I remember more than 50 being at the church.

It's hard to picture. 50 seems small

I'll have to dig out the wedding pics

I remember thinking it was annoying that the sit down meal was so expensive that it limited how many you could have at church. I think I remember it was £50 per head for the sit-down meal.

UK registry - £500 incl new outfits and meal after for our witnesses and guests (8 of us in total)
Wedding abroad - 33k, just shy of 500 guests. Venue was a tent on grounds in a nice part of town. Also incl our accommodation there for 2 weeks and the flights.

We were financially secure hence was fine to do it. No regrets!

About 8k, that was a cheap wedding package at gretna green which included hotel stay, flowers, food, hair and photos with 28 guests & us, and that 8k also included rings, dress and our honeymoon which was backpacking around Canada! We had a great time but it was 28 people too many if you ask me 🤣

I think you’ll find @Ivyiris that there is quite a range just from the replies here. @HmmmmmmInteresting hit the nail on the head saying how much do YOU want to pay. Remember that it’s a marriage that you’re starting, life together that is ultimately the most important thing.

And if your sister in-laws all rock up in matching outfits and make other guests think they are special bridesmaids just let it go....... I sadly have the photographic proof!

12k for 80 day guests. Beautiful modern barn type venue. That included all food, drinks, outfits etc. We got married in autumn and midweek so this bought her cost down (as opposed to weekend in the summer)

We then had a honeymoon year after so we could save up for it.

@Orchidflower1

I think you’ll find *@Ivyiris that there is quite a range just from the replies here. @HmmmmmmInteresting* hit the nail on the head saying how much do YOU want to pay. Remember that it’s a marriage that you’re starting, life together that is ultimately the most important thing.

And if your sister in-laws all rock up in matching outfits and make other guests think they are special bridesmaids just let it go....... I sadly have the photographic proof!

Ok @Orchidflower1 you need to spill now!

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The gist of it is that my SIL didn’t really like me ( I was too different in so many ways) and they felt that I should have asked girls/ ladies from my husbands family to be my bridesmaids.

I didn’t - I had my sisters, my cousins and my two young nieces. Quite sufficient I felt. The men from dh side were ushers, readers, best men etc. As I said upthread my dad paid for the vast majority of it save the men’s suits so they SIL had nothing to moan about.

Now that wasn’t sufficient for the sil- on the day of the wedding they turned up with matching bridesmaid style dresses and matching cummerbund and waistcoats for their husbands and one son. They looked like their own wedding party. I was oblivious to this until the photos after when my cousin asked me if I knew about it! I did not!

To top it off- one sil harangued the photographer and had their own set of photos taken.

At the reception two of the four sil went to their rooms for about three hours.

Fortunately I have a better relationship with one of them now- the others I see as little of as I can!

There you go @HmmmmmmInteresting.......

And @Ivyiris let it be a lesson to you to be firm with what you want. My sil did annoy me and upset me a lot at the time but the main thing was the start of a long and (mostly) happy marriage. Have the wedding you and your fiancé want.

15k 14 years ago. Wouldn't spend anything like that amount of money on one day now.
Now I'm more sensible and less fun but I don't regret it. We enjoyed the day like no other and we'll always have the memory of it. If you are trying to decide what is worth it and what is not I'd say having the people you want there and plenty of food and drink. What isn't worth spending money you don't have on would be the frills that don't really affect the day like wedding cars, seat coverings, overly expensive flowers, choc fountains and the like.

10K 15 years ago, about 100 people. I got the cake from M&S, a friend did photography and flowers and so I spent a bit more on my dress abs the venue. It was a great day but the best day of my life was when my children were born so I wouldn't spend that much again. I think people get far too carried away.