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Black girls matter

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Forwhatitsworth101 · 14/03/2021 00:14

Whilst I’m sad about the Sarah Everend case I can’t help but feel even worse knowing if she had been black literally no one would have cared and it would not have made national news.

Countless non-white women are abducted and murdered and literally go unnoticed.

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Wonderbrush · 14/03/2021 00:29

Yes there was a black girl called blessing found mysteriously washed up on the beach last year.
www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.mylondon.news/news/south-london-news/police-say-young-london-carer-20129426.amp

Lot of people are talking about it now because of how quickly Sarah was found and that no one cares when none whites go missing.

kazzer2867 · 14/03/2021 00:53

@Forwhatitsworth101

Whilst I’m sad about the Sarah Everend case I can’t help but feel even worse knowing if she had been black literally no one would have cared and it would not have made national news.

Countless non-white women are abducted and murdered and literally go unnoticed.

Exactly.

The man accused of murdering Nicole Smallman and Bibaa Henry appeared at the Old Bailey on the 11th March. I had to search for an update on the case. Whilst it is sad about Sarah Everend, what is even sadder, is the value placed on black lives.

JingsMahBucket · 14/03/2021 02:18

@Forwhatitsworth101 YANBU. I saw her picture finally today and said, “Oh. That’s why they’re all angry.”

webeatle · 14/03/2021 02:24

Absolutely agree! However most people would care- if they knew. Every time I hear about Madeline Mcanne and more money spent on the investigation my heart goes to the hundreds of other mums who have missing babies and money isn't spent on them, it must be heartbreaking. There is a big divide who gets the money, media and time and those who don't. It's sickening!!

HeddaGarbled · 14/03/2021 02:35

There are many women who are murdered who don’t attract this level of attention. 118 names Jess Phillips read out in parliament. I don’t know why this one has attracted so much attention but race isn’t the only factor.

Truelymadlydeeplysomeonesmum · 14/03/2021 02:51

I think the main reason for all the attention is a police officer did it

Plus he had recently been reported for flashing someone but was still working

People who have ever experienced domestic abuse or any crime against women are angry and upset. The police constantly don't take these things seriously enough and women get hurt or killed because of that.

NiceGerbil · 14/03/2021 02:54

This is an established phenomenon:

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Missing_white_woman_syndrome

I don't usually post in this topic but thought that might be pertinent.

IFoundMyselfInThisBar · 14/03/2021 02:57

I agree that black women being murdered would have got less press coverage. That is the fault of the press and the people (white men) who run the press in this country, they don’t put in the main headlines. In turn, most of the public only look at easy to access news stories, so I don’t think it’s that the public don’t care, it’s that they don’t have easy access to certain stories. People are mostly heavily influenced by the press, unfortunately.
People need to realise that our press is very bias and they push the stories that they want to.

I can only imagine how this makes black people, black women in this case, feel because I find it makes, as a shite woman, very angry, sad and frustrated. I care but I don’t know what the fuck to do about something that is so in control of us all.

IFoundMyselfInThisBar · 14/03/2021 02:59

*it makes me, as a white woman
(I hope I’m not a shite woman) 😬

Idliketoteachtheworldtosing1 · 14/03/2021 03:07

Come on seriously does everything have to be about bloody race, the poor woman was killed and the main issue is that the perpetrator was a policeman.
Can we not just show some solidarity!

NiceGerbil · 14/03/2021 03:12

Yes it does have to be.

Race
Also class
Other things like addiction

Missing white woman is a well established phenomenon. And it is in play here.

I'm white as well and think that black women should be able to discuss this without essentially all lives matter type posts.

Nnovember · 14/03/2021 05:33

Thank you for posting this. I had no idea that there was an update on the Nicole and Bibaa murders!!! RIP Blessing Olusegun and Nicole Everard. Im confident that Sarah's vile murder will be in the news with updates until the scumbag is in prison.

Unfortunately Blessing's family havent been afforded the same coverage. The bodies and Nicole and Bibaa were treated like trash by the very people who were supposed to watch over them in their vulnerable state.

Black women do not get the same coverage. That is sad fact.

en0la · 14/03/2021 06:03

[quote JingsMahBucket]@Forwhatitsworth101 YANBU. I saw her picture finally today and said, “Oh. That’s why they’re all angry.”[/quote]
No, they are angry because the accused is a serving police officer.

Nnovember · 14/03/2021 06:15

Apologies, above I should have said Sarah Everard not Nicole!

Forwhatitsworth101 · 14/03/2021 07:36

For all the usual posters coming to ask about solidarity... where was the solidarity when countless black women were murdered by people they don’t know, doing nothing wrong

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Justanotherworkingmom · 14/03/2021 07:41

The reason this case got so much attention is, initially, because this poor woman just disappeared in a busy city and it was clearly not a normal missing person case.

Many women of various races go missing or are killed without a single column inch.

OverTheRainbow88 · 14/03/2021 07:49

Sadly, having to agree.

Also when Sarah was missing on MN everyone was calling her Sarah, yet when Nicole and Bibaa were killed and people on here wanted to say the media reported on their case they didn’t even use their names just “the 2 black sisters”.

OutsideTheWhiteHouse · 14/03/2021 07:54

I couldn’t believe how little attention and press follow-up the murders of Nicole and Bibaa got. It was such a shocking crime, there was obviously some sort of conscious or unconscious bias (probably both) going on in the coverage of that story. This happened near to where I live and the local community were traumatised.

May17th · 14/03/2021 07:56

@Truelymadlydeeplysomeonesmum

I think the main reason for all the attention is a police officer did it

Plus he had recently been reported for flashing someone but was still working

People who have ever experienced domestic abuse or any crime against women are angry and upset. The police constantly don't take these things seriously enough and women get hurt or killed because of that.

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Forwhatitsworth101 · 14/03/2021 07:56

I’m sorry what’s not normal about it? It most definitely needs investigating as the perpetrator is a Police officer but I believe the very fact that she went missing in the middle of a busy city means if there was a struggle people would notice? It was only 9:30 I believe. I’m sure the truth will come out.

My only issue is that so many women yes of various races and backgrounds are murdered in silicosis circumstances by men they do not know... they don’t attract the sane attention.

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Clymene · 14/03/2021 07:58

Yes, the contrast between the media attention given to Nicole and Bibaa's murders vs Sarah's is very noticeable.

Their mother has spoken about the toxic culture in the Met too: www.churchtimes.co.uk/articles/2020/3-july/news/uk/police-officers-dehumanised-my-children-says-archdeacon-smallman

Forwhatitsworth101 · 14/03/2021 07:58

@OutsideTheWhiteHouse

Yes I agree terrifying that two women could have been murdered by a single male

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brokengate · 14/03/2021 08:01

It's the police aspect, I agree.

George floyd? The protests? Again, the police.

@Truelymadlydeeplysomeonesmum sums it perfectly for me.

I don't think race is at play at all here, and indeed had Sarah been black the outcry, in my view, would have been exactly the same, if not greater, given the police brutality awareness and Blm movement.

Forwhatitsworth101 · 14/03/2021 08:02

Just to clarify I would like to see more solidarity with these issues and I am very angry that a supposed Police officer could do something like this, but it’s unfortunately something I noticed when thinking of other recent murders and the amount of coverage those cases received.

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Forwhatitsworth101 · 14/03/2021 08:05

@brokengate George Floyd was murdered in broad daylight by police in front of witnesses in a style that is reminiscent of so many historic cases of police brutality against blacks in the US... hence the media attention.

I highly doubt the outcry would be the same because as others have put if Sarah had been black or the wrong class/background the case would not have attracted the sane coverage.

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