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Can dating preferences be racist?

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BabyBee93 · 05/02/2021 19:19

Just been on another thread discussing dating preferences to do with height and the conversation moved to racial preferences while dating.

My question is, can racial preferences when dating be racist?

Full disclosure: I'm white and my husband is black. I have never dated white men. Simply don't find much about them appealing. I've been told in the past, by a white man, that my choosing not to date them was racist. I don't agree because I don't see any racism in my personal, natural preference - I have nothing against white men, I'm just not interested in them in a sexual/relationship way. But say for example that a white man were saying he preferred not to date a black woman, would there be an issue there? (a poster on the other thread said this could be racist)

Looking to see a different perspective than my own and would hate anyone to cause/receive offence so please be nice!

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Sumwin1 · 16/02/2021 19:28

@Janaih it’s not fetishising someone’s culture sometimes certain cultures prefer their own. I have dated someone opposite to my culture and while I don’t rule this out... it can cause issues I wouldn’t knock anyone for wanting someone from the same culture it does make sense to some degree.

Janaih · 16/02/2021 19:34

@Sumwin1 I'm not talking about a preference for your own, the opposite. Wanting to have shared culture and history is absolutely not racist.

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