We live in a very "polite" country where everyone wants to compete for the moral high ground. I find that other races of women will greet you and acknowledge you at the same time hold a lot of negative views about African people. They will say good morning and have chit chats with you at the school gate and then talk shit about your race with their family at the dinner table. They will have "friendly" conversations with you and at the same time think that an afro is messy, think that African are poor because they are lazy etc...I've had to drop a lot of friendships because of unconscious/concious bias. Do these views about your race bother you or would see yourself as an individual and continue the friendship. My best friend was white as a teenager and she would always tell me how dark some guys were. She said they were too dark for me to date(I am dark skinned as well). She was also very into black guys as long as they were not too dark. How do you deal with women of other races being friendly with you? Does your guard go up or do you just not care, a friend is a friend. That was how I thought but I've discovered that they eventually let out their real thoughts once they get comfy.
Where I say African people I mean black people in general. Wether you are afro carib, afro Brits or born on the mainland, we have African DNA and thats what makes us black. African is my preferred term.