Not sure if this would be ok to ask here?

[theresaplaceforus]

I’m mixed race - black mother, white father. I’m also heavily pregnant with my first child who will only be 1/4 black.
I’m having a lot of anxiety that she won’t resemble me in the slightest and I guess I just wanted to say it out loud and I haven’t really been able to voice it all that much. I hope I won’t be judged because I do know she’ll be who she is and loved completely it’s just a niggle that’s all and I want to make sure she is aware of her black roots.

Blackness is not just a skin tone. It is an experience and a heritage. There are black people who are completely black in there culture and beliefs but their skin is light. You children will have black heritage and it's up to you and your dh to educate them on it and allow them to be proud and stand up for what they believe in. They will probably hear more racism than darker people if they pass as white. What they do and how they feel about it comes down to how you raise them.
My niece looks white. She heard her boss call some customers 'black coons' she confronted him and told him she is mixed. He did not know where to put himself and she left by the end of the month. She was shocked and hurt and angry but unsure of what to do.

If it helps your fears - here's me and my mini me! We definitely look alike xx