Due December 09 - Fluttering Tums and Excited Mums...

[SarahL2]

New Thread before the old one fills up.

Madmissy - thanks for replying to my question about SPD a couple of days ago. Have read a bit about it and am sure that's what it is, thanks.

Sorry those of you who are having a tough time with DPs. Am very luck with DH, MIL always says she was determined not to have a son with the same attitudes that she saw in her friends DHs (and MIL is one determined woman so I don't think he stood a chance!)

Goldensnitch - don't worry my bro told me that I was the same size as one of his friends was at full term when I was 16 weeks! I am usually a size 8 and have so far put on 2 kgs this pg (well since my booking appointment, don't usually weigh myself so don't know what I was before) so this is frankly unlikely. I looked very concerned and said she must have had some serious medical issues. I think people find it difficult to judge pg women's size and have no tact.

hows it been recently catz?

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Can I ask if any of you have given any thought to Xmas arrangements??

We'd usually have my parents PIL and dp's brother round for presents and lunch on Xmas day. I'm sure both sets of parents will want to see dd (3.7 then) on Xmas Day. We also then tend to visit PIL and my aunt and family on Boxing Day. All relatives live within a half an hour car journey in roughly the same direction. If all goes to plan I'll be having a C. section the week before....so not sure what to do. Feel like I need to be very organised this year no matter what we're doing.

We have a family breakfast where everyone comes about 1am to do crumpets, croissants, toast etc etc and its all very easy and civilised..........then they all bugger off and we do our Christmas picnic...... everything we love to eat on a rug in the lounge..... generally cold stuff so no cooking or at most a piece of beef for beef and onion sandwiches!!!!. we eat off paper plates and use plastic glasses so no washing up all day. its perfect!!!! then we generally tootle round to friends early evening for a christmas drink and then home to watch tele. we either do a 'christmas dinner' another day or just go out and let someone else cook it. Make it as easy as poss and give yourself as much time as poss with the kids!!!!

10 am that should say ...phhhheeewwwwwww

I did think that 1am didn't sound very civilised at all....

I think that I'll just want to stay at home on Xmas Day like usual but not cook a big lunch and actually I don't think I want mum and mil cooking a big lunch in my kitchen. Not that I'm particularly territorial but I would still find it a bit stressful.

I think lots of party food nibbles from M&S might be the way to go with no proper cooking on the day. Could still cook a turkey and a ham the night before I suppose as I'll not be out partying!

Your xmas arrangements sound super sparkly & Ladidadi.

Here we usually have family to stay or go to visit as everyone lives in other countries. This year we're staying put as due on the 15th. I'm hoping my sister will come and stay. I'll have all xmass pressies/stocking gifts sorted & wrapped early as dd was three weeks early - so mid November for getting all xmas things. I wont be cooking the usual huge lunch but will most probably do a scaled down version with easy things.

The issue for us atm is who will look after our other kids when I am giving birth & if dh is a work as others births have been very quick. Making a list of friends but they all have kids to look after as well & dh's who travel - so whilst they will help they might not be able to at a moments notice. Have three at school, one at preschool and one at creche two days a week - so three locations to consider. Would like a homebirth but not sure if it would be possible seeing I've had one c/s & two pph's - one for retained placenta that needed to be removed and the other just happened about 4hrs after the birth.

LaDi - you're very brave to be doing travelling so soon after a cs!

I'm actually due on Xmas day. DH is having the week before Xmas off too (school plays, things to sort...). We will get as much pre-made (M&S, Tesco) as poss, and probably a turkey crown thing. DH will do all cookiing as each year anyway. We will be at home this year just like every year, baby or not! When i have the baby we will have people up for champagne and mince pies etc. Who knows when i will have her though...could be a week before or begininning of January! Pre-preparation i say! lol. Kids Xmas things will be bought and wrapped in October.

mybox - i too will be home birthing and am worried about where my 3 will go.

i am due on the 21st so to make things easy we are going to pil's its about 20mins away. then will head hoem fairly early to chill on own

depends really on when baby boy arrives..

im soooooooo of the homebirths

i wld soooo loved one but with dd2 i had to have a manula removal of my placenta and i pph'd heavily

luckily did not need transfusion but chances of it happening again are very high

i sure hope not as i am very honest on that it was more painful than having dd2!

it is our turn to go to PIL for christmas, but as they live about an hour and 45 away from us, and we would probably have to stay over, we have decided we will probably stay at home. my mum lives about 40 mins away, (in the opposite direction) and so i think was hoping we would come to them, but DH is adamant we are not making any commitments! Baby is due 5th Dec, and is my first, so no experience of previous early or late arrivals, but both my brother and i were really late, so thinking that it could be during the last week before christmas when baby arrives.... if all goes well, might pop to my mums for a few hours and then drive back for the evening. Both our sets of parents live a bit out in the wilds, so is dependant on weather too! so who knows!
had better get on anyway, supposed to be finishing a dissertation this weekend...hopefuly the last bit of studying i will do for a loooooong time!

Christmas will be breakfast at home and then pile round my parents for lunch and maybe dinner depending how drunk me and my sister get!! (Oh and watch DC open their presents of course)

Not sure of this, but if you are breastfeeding, but want to have a christmas drink, are you best to express milk in advance?? I can't think of anything worse than a drink free christmas (apart from a hungover boxing day i suppose, with a newborn to look after!) Don't want to go mad but would be nice to be able to have a few glasses of wine!

I'm due on the 27th but will probably be having an elective section so baby should be here sometime around the 20th.

We were supposed to be going to my Mum's but thats a 3 hour drive away so we've cancelled that. MIL has not yet offered for us to go to hers. Never know, it might be our first xmas at home. I've never been keen on the idea to be honest, I was one of 4 and we always had both sets of GP's over on the day. Chrostmas with 4 of us seems lonely in comparisson!

Would love to express and have a drink but am unlikely to have supply sorted enough to be able to have expressed much by 5 days and always thought you were supposed to give baby a couple of weeks to get used to nipple before trying a bottle to make sure they don't get confused.

Looks like its a dry xmas for me

Madmissy -I'd like to be able to have a homebirth as when I got to hospital for the last three it was just in time so may as well be at home as had no pain relief (no gas & air) but like you with the pph & placenta I don't think I can. I'm finding out though to be sure. (Lucky you Scorps to ba able to stay at home). It would easier as well as kids would be at home or on their way home from school with lifts from other parents (have to arrange this).

As I understand it - bf & having a drink are fine as long as you feel ok so one or two glasses is ok or normal size amounts.

mybox----

did you have same problem as me then? fingers crossed for you! my consultant wants me in hosp and pretty much monitored

I agree with mybox re the alcohol. I will definitely be having a drink of something nice.

Mybox.... I am lucky to have a good relationship with my dds father.... my ex p. He is going to have a key and if we need him in the night he will come over and sleep on sofa and do the school run but will have a key if he needs anything. Just not sure whether to wake dd up and tell her what is happening or not. if it is a day we have friends to help or her dad or my parents but want my dd to be first person to find out what we have got!!!!!!

Madmissy - not sure what happened with you but for me I had pph's after dc3 & dc5. With dc3 the placenta was half stuck and had to be manually removed. Was awful as I gave birth quickly just fine & then had to have an epidural to remove the placenta. The anesthetist was taking time to arrive so the doc said she'd have to do the procedure with no pain relief - I just said ok as it was like a tap running & I had whooshing sounds in my ears & felt awful. Anyhow the anesthetist arrived & it was hard to stay still as slipping about but epidural finally ok & placenta out. Very awful indeed.

With dc5 - some hours after the birth I got up & blood just wouldn't stop. The nurses had to clean the floor, bed & me and I had an injection of the drug to cause the womb to contract after the birth & had to lie down. Felt wiped out for about 2 wks after. Hb was 7 afterwards.

Would like a homebirth but don't think I qualify - will see. I had just a bit of monitoring last time & for dc4 no time for monitoring. I want to be upright & mobile.

LaDi - yes me too - a glass of champagne will be perfect.

Sparkly - good for you with your organization. Plus it's nice that your dd will hear the news from you

mybox like you had aquick labour with dd2. once she was born the cord snapped and the placenta became stuck tried to push it out of ages but no joy started to become woozy and felt like i was bleeding loads said to dh and he went as white as a sheet pressed panic button lol was blood puddles on floor kind of gald i didnt see...

the pain was immense and they were prepping me for theatre and trying to get the placenta out at this point i had nails dug in midwives arm lol and 3 male docs debating between my legs

i iwll never forget the young girl doc that strolled in gloves on and hand straight in lol i was screaming to get the feck out of me and then she got hold of placenta and that was that

i was too out of it to feed dd2 and cld barely open my eyes the nurse on ward was first to change her nappy

so when i was last at consultant she said to have hospital birth and i will need to be kept eye on to avoid same happening

i too am really of homebirths. but my dh is really concerned about it. he said i can have one with dc3 if all goes well again this time

xmas plans going ahead as normal at the moment for us. We normally do presents at home then visit family houses all minutes away and then dinner at my mums, 2 mins away. if its all too much ill just say so on the day and they will understand. I think it will be easier to go out though and dd is not at the age yet where she needs to be at home she will be happy to take her toys with her.

oh my dh sound awful when i put it like that. he is not honest!

Madmissey - what a traumatic experience - this is the bit of childbirth you just don't get to hear about until after it's happened. Hope you wont have to go through that again.

Damnit - know what you mean. I think it's worse for those supporting the mum in labour sometimes as they think about everything that can go wrong whilst the mum is just getting on with the job in hand.