Help!!

[BrumOne]

Hi, I am living in Cardiff and expecting my first baby in July - my partner recently ended the relationship and so as well as being extremely emotional things are up in the air at the miniute. I would like to go to antenatal classes but I am worried about going alone - is it vital to go with a partner??

Firstly, sorry about your relationship breaking down, this is hard to handle anyway nevermind when you are pregnant and have those damn hormones to deal with as well.
It is not essential that you go with your partner, at my ante natal classes some girls were there with their mums, a couple had a friend with them.

Hello, I was alone when I was PG with DS1 and went to the NHS ante-natal classes on my own. It was absolutely fine. Nobody judged me and I made some really good friends there too.

Although people do go with partners week after week, many go alone and some partners will be there for only one or two sessions.

Good luck, hope it all goes well. And join the July AN club on here too, they will be fab I'm sure

Thanks guys, I'm really not coping well at the moment, the relationship ending has been a big shock for me and i cant see a way out at the moment - I am only really in Cardiff for him and now my job, so all my friends and family are a few hours away.

I'm def gonna give the antenatal a go - wud be good to meet new people - jus really hopin he will change his mind and my relationship will get back on track - cant handle the thought of becoming a single mom!!

Oh BrumOne, sorry to hear that.

There are real advantages to being on your own, you know. You and the LO kind of get into a groove, and it really works. Even when DS1 would wake up at 5am, we'd get all our jobs done and be in the park for 8. It was a lovely, lovely time and I have nothing but fond memories of it. We have a special bond because we had to do it alone, and it made me realise how strong and capable I actually am.

Did your pregnancy have any bearing on the end of the relationship, or would it have ended anyway?

Its a very scary time for you, and unknown, but it comes good. A baby changes your life and you, it may change the person you are, but I really believe that this is a good thing.

As it happened, despite DP fleeing to the hills until a month before DS was born, he accepted his responsibilities and is a very good dad to him. And our subsequent 3 children. But happy endings happen if they stick around or not.

Good luck, and do make the most of MN, MN local and the AN group. My AN/now PN group on here are brilliant and we go back 2 years now. I consider them friends, despite having not met half of them. Not sure if that makes me odd though

Thanks for that - its good to hear from other people who have been in the same situation. I keep thinking that the baby coming along will make everything better, but then I also wonder if it could make everything worse - I dont want to resent it!!

I'm not really sure if it was down to the pregnancy as its wot we both wanted - just all a bit out of the blue really!!!

I have some days when i'm sooo excited about the baby and other days when I am terrified!! I know though that he will be a good dad, and he wants to be involved - jus not sure how much he will be around!!!