Any advice for only 19months between dc's??

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Just done a pregnancy test this morning and to my absolute surprise had a positive result! It's only 3weeks since AF came to visit but I'm feeling mega sick and generally pregnant so thought I'd do one just for the fun!! So I'm guessing AF wasn't really AF after all and I'm maybe 8weeks gone? Who knows until I have a scan but there's gonna be roughly 19-20 months between my dd and this next one - anyone else in the same boat? and is it harder or easier with 2 closer together - as most people I've spoke to seem to think leaving more like 2-2 1/2 years is better. am I gonna have my work cut out for me here.....
Thanks guys xx

There are lots with small gaps (I have 15 months between dd1 and 2). It is hard when dc 2 is very small, but there are advantages to any gap.

DD1 was too young to remember being the only, so we have never had any jealousy, and it has been easy to find things they both want to do together as they get older.

Congratulations

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I have DD1 6 yrs, DS 28 months and DD2 9 months. The smaller age gap is hard to start with but as they get a little older they play with the same toys, share the same baths, eat the same food, their stuff fits in the same change bag, go to the same toddler groups, any age related activities will suit them both. I could go on but I think you get it. My only advice is get a good double buggy.

All the best

Congratulations.
There will be an 18 month gap between my 2 ds's, number 2 is due in 4 weeks.......Sure it'll be fine

Great advice thank you - feeling a bit better now! Denny185 - any reccommendations for a double buggy then? Thought I'd carry dc2 in my sling while its wee and keep dd1 in her single buggy - wasn't planning on buying a double until dc2's too heavy to carry - do you reckon that will work?

Yes that will work for a few months. I have 3 buggies a mothercare tandem which is great for shopping, has a massive basket and lots of room for both kids but really hard work to push. A chicco side by side which is easy to push and fab if your out all day as both seats lay flat to sleep but rubbish around the shops, far too wide, and finally I have a Jane power twin which is amazingly light to push and really easy to steer, I do a lot of walking so this has been used heaps, however the basket size is crap (I generally have a backpack to carry any shopping) and the leg room is on the tight side.

I did look at the phil and ted as they have more room for the children and still light and easy to push. It still has the obvious problem of no basket but you can get panniers for it but this then makes it almost as wide as the side by sides. The main reason for not choosing this though was because one of the roads I walk up is quite polluted and the bottom child is on exhaust pipe level.

Dont know what the icandy pear is like as it came out just after I brought my Jane.

Hope this is helpful, maybe someone else will come on to give u some more tips.

will be fine. I had a 2.2yr gap and a 12mth gap this time will be 2.5yrs. I have so far found the 12mth gap the easiest as dd1 was too young to be bothered by dd2 and they now play together fairly nicely..as much as sisters can..lol

Thanks Denny - great knowledge of double buggies! You must have a massive house to keep 3 tho!! lol!! Most of my walking is dog walking around the beach and lake so the Jane sounds good - I've got plenty of time tho!! Still trying to get my head round being pregnant again - already getting pissed off not being able to eat cream cheese, prawns, runny eggs etc.. Could murder a glass of wine too!!! lol!!

Hi, I'm currently 37 weeks pg with DC2, there will be 19 months between my too, obviously have no idea what it will be like when this one is born but both my mum and sister had very similar age gaps and said although it is hard work at first there are lots of advantages! At the moment the hardest thing for me is being heavily pg and looking after small toddler, I feel guilty I don't have enough energy to play as much as he wants and I've let him watch far too much Cbeebies - so I'm hoping once I've had no. 2 it will be slightly easier as I can at least put it down for a while!!!!!!!

I'll have ds 1 (will be ages)5.4 and ds 2 20 months. I was going to use a sling for dc 3 and pushchair for ds 2 he's not walking at all and don't want to have a double buggy as I think it will be easier to just put him in it rather than make him walk so I'll try to do without. As we have a school run to do ds 2 already has naps at certain times so dc 3 will just have to fit in with that as it's not shiftable.
I used a sling with ds 2 for ages and it was so great that I'd like to do it again plus I will have hands free for ds 2 (whilst carrying dc 3)

i am watching this thread with interest. am 11 weeks with dc2. dd1 will be 18 months when new one comes along. total shock and oh is being a right pain at the mo. he is worried about living arrangement ( live in 2 bed appartment with no hope of selling) and job security. all this info is really reassuing

i am watching this thread with interest. am 11 weeks with dc2. dd1 will be 18 months when new one comes along. total shock and oh is being a right pain at the mo. he is worried about living arrangement ( live in 2 bed appartment with no hope of selling) and job security. all this info is really reassuing

I have 19 months between dds and have never used a double buggy and dd2 is 16 months old now. If you get the right sling it's fine. I used a moby wrap for six months and then switched to a mei tai.

Just as a contrast on the double buggy....I wore mine out!
DD1 was not walking when I had dd2, was very big, and I had had a cs and struggled to carry the baby, so combined with existing back problems, it all ruled out the sling as an everyday solution.

I also walk alot and when dd1 was too big for the double still used a buggy board for very long trips out.

WRT space in the house, once you've fitted the first one in an extra baby isn't a problem and you probably still have everything from dc1 so the baby stage isn't expensive.

We now have three children and are still working on making our two bedroom terraced house into a three bedroom place!

Thanks for all wicked advice guys - pud 1: good luck with your pg, and yeah - why does dc1 have to really stick the boot in when it comes to being a pain in the arse - just when you find out your gonna have 2 of the little buggers angels!!

Pud we live in a 2 bed flat with our two boys, we too aren't in a position to move. Whilst sometimes a pain like at bedtime also think has made them closer too. Ours are exactly 19 months apart, think hard at first but they are now 31 and 14 months and are really close and don't think DS1 remembers life without his brother. Good luck to you both!

I am now 20 weeks pg with dc2. Ds's first b'day is 6 weeks before due date for no 2, so am also slightly concerned. Dp however has been great (surprisingly) it's my mother who's causing me all the stress!

My DC's are 19 months apart. I found the first year hard TBH but my eldest really did throw himself into the terrible two's with huge enthusiasm so maybe that is why...it is fab now (5 and 3 1/2), they play together and amuse each other such a lot around the house, plus all the benefits that have been mentioned - 1 set of shared toys, 1 bath time, 1 (slightly early) bed time .

first year is very very tough (ime although ds2 was v colicky so maybe that's why)

after that, it's the best age gap - they play together all the time, you can take them to the same kind of activities and places, the eldest can't remember being the 'only', much less jealousy than with a slightly larger age gap.