Who have you told and how?

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Just out of interest I was wondering who people have told about their BFP's, how and when??

I am 5 weeks, I have told 6 of my closest friends and no-one else. I have also told them that they are my support groups should anything go wrong (have had previous mc) and they were fab and chuffed to be in the 'select' few!!

I told them by texting them a pic of my BFP digital readout! They were pretty shocked but it was fun for me to get the calls and texts back!

We plan to tell family etc on Xmas day by giving them an Xmas card signed from Bump. Hope it will be a nice surprise for them!

We wanted to keep it quite until after I'd had the first scan, but I went to a day spa with my SIL a few weeks before, and while she was in the hall waiting for her treatment, my therapist walked out and loudly asked if pregnant women could have the back massage. my SIL had over heard, didn't say anything to me on the day, but then text DH to ask him and said she wouldn't be able to keep it a secret! So we ended up tell people earlier than we wanted.

at first I told the people I would want to know if anything went wrong (mum, MIL, 3 best friends)

after 12w scan told a few other friends and inlaws

Told my wider family and everyone else after 16w check

oh and in the early days DH told one good friend(who's a dad so didnt change the subject ASAP and wasnt horrified that another one had bitten the dust LOL) just incase he needed outside support

I am 18 weeks today and PIL still don't know. I find it really upsetting. DH visits them every week but I don't go as he works near where they live (an hour away).

I'm too embarrassed to go round and visit now as I've a bump and DH has asked me to let him tell them.

I don't get the problem we're married and already have DC's and in our 30's.

Everyone else knows.

He thinks they won't be bothered anyway as they already have 4 grandkids and only bother with 1 or 2 of them (never our DC's).

good grief my ils would be really hurt if we hadn't told them by the 18wk stage. i'm pregnant with dc3...their 6th grandchild and they were really pleased..i don't think they would become less bothered with each one.

i always had to tell people quite early on because i looked so ill and was rather grumpy!!

to be honest I think DH isDH' a little upset with them anyway at the way they openly prioritise our niece and can't do enough for her and also do a fair amount for his DS with his XP but nothing for our DC's. They have looked after our DC's one (maybe twice) in 5 years. They have seen DS1 once this year (in January) and DS2 about three times. The live 30 miles away, in their early 50's and are semi-retired. have a car, so no excuse really. Everytime I try and go round they are doing something or have a cold they don't want to pass on!

I know this sounds silly but I am pretty sure they can't not like me. I'm not a nasty or hard to get along with type of person.

I just don't get it but I find it very stressful.

First time I only told my mum and MIL early, and told everyone after the 3 month mark.

2nd time I told my siblings and my mum-in-law, early, but then found out I had a missed MC. Was a bit annoyed to find out that all of my SILs (I have a few!!) knew about the mc. Didn't really feel it was my MIL's place to tell them, as am not really all that close to them - and she didn't know that my siblings knew so couldn't use that as an excuse. DH had also blabbed it to a few friends, and I was a bit to be faced with a bunch of congratulations from people that I didn't know knew, and had to tell them I had had a mc when I didn't really feel like sharing it with them. Told my DH to tell those he had blabbed to that I did NOT want to talk about it with anyone, no matter how damn sympathetic they were feeling. If I had wanted them to know, I would have bloody well told them myself - not like he had told them because he wanted to particularly share with them as they weren't that close to us. Very cross with him indeed.

Just got my BFP on the weekend, and have banned DH from telling ANYONE, until we have the 3 month scan - including his mum because quite frankly she didn't keep it quiet last time so she lost the right to know early.

At 8 weeks we told my dad and brother who I am really close to, my Fil, sil and bil and two more really close relatives/friends who were all at our home for dinner that evening.
My dh also told his two closest male cousins who he always hangs out with, mainly because we'd been on holiday with all of them together and people were starting to ask questions as to why I wasn't drinking and "what was that about taking naps in the afternoon??" I think they had guessed it.

I sent my dad and brother a pic of the test. It was really funny that my dad (who does not speak any english) did not know what "pregnant" meant (on the test) and probably never saw a pregnancy test in his life so I had to tell him it meant he was going to be a grandad :D
It was my FIL's bday so we gave him a bday card that said "happy bday grandad". It was great.

At 9 weeks we told my two best friends, only because they are both off for long trips and I wanted to tell them face to face.
I proposed a tost to "your move to the states", "your long trip abroad" and "to our nine weeks anniversary" it took them a minute to understand

I deally I would have liked to wait a bit longer but it just felt like the right time.
I a planning on telling my aunties who I am also close to after the scan if all goes well.
We haven't told anyone else directly but I know some other people know through the grapevine which I'm not really pleased about because we told everybody to keep it a secret until the scan next week.

Fingers crossed it'll all be ok.

ElfOnTheTopShelf my SIL put it on facebook :S I was furious! (we had asked not to say anything).

I told my manager, my best friend and a close work colleague, and DP told his mum...at about 7/8 weeks then we kept quiet for a while!

We told my parents at 14 weeks (they had been on holiday for 6 weeks!) and then I told my siter and it gradualy filtered thought the rest of the family. Im not into big annuoncements so told the people I wanted to, best friend, mum and dad and sister and let the rest take care of itself...afterall, families are very good at spreading gossip!!!