6 weeks pregnant feeling down...

[rose86]

Hi. I have recently discovered Im pregnant. Im six weeks gone. At first I was happy and knew I wanted to keep this baby. My partners very happy about it too. But the past few days Ive been having doubts. I think Im too young and haven't done everything I want to do with my life. I feel down I don't want to see or speak to anyone, I cant be bothered to go out and do anything I just want to go to sleep and wake up and it not be here.
My partners 12 years older than me has a good job a house..ect...he is ready to become a father but im not.
This pregnancy wasn't planned so this is a big shock to us all. Im really struggling to come to terms with it. Is this just hormones is it natural doubts that everyone has or is this wrong and should I do something about it before its too late.

Sorry for long post but need someone to talk to about this that doesn't know me and won't judge.

TIA.

Thought I´d say hi and that there will be plenty of others along soon to be here for you as well. Try not to worry unduly your hormones do "wonderful" things to you when you fall pregnant. Some people sail through their pregnancies and others don´t. You´re not alone and, like I say, there´ll be plenty of people along who are in or have been in the same situation as you.

Hi Tia, I fell pregnant a year and a half ago - and I found out when I was 6 weeks - and know exactly how you felt. Unfortunately, at the time I didn't really have the support of my dp, so, it was not a good time. I spoke to councellor about everything (not sure it helped to be honest) but some people find that useful. In the end, I couldn't face the alternative, althought I certainly don't judge anyone for making that choice, and a result my ds was born a year ago. I wouldn't have things any other way, however, if you are having doubts now, then you are definitely right to talk about them. I am happy to talk to you about everything I went through if you'd like - perhaps easier on e.mail - than here tho ! Let me know, and whatever you do, don't ever feel guilty about being honest with yourself.

Thanks for those messages they were really nice. Its good to hear that other people have felt the same and come through it with no regrets. I'm just worried that I can't go travelling and have my freedom. is it normal to feel so depressed everyone keeps telling me that its just my hormones.?

entireley natural feelings to experience - just stigmatised so very few mums-to-be actually acknowledge they have mixed feelings.

take care

So you felt like this aswell? were you up and down in a matter of hours? Any advise on what I can do to start comming to terms with this?

I was up in down in minutes not just hours !!! Crying one minute, laughing another ! I really didn't have any of the instincts that alot of people talk about either. I wasn't one of them - but equally, I made my decision, and seriosuly don't regret any part of it. I even had a termination booked, and turned up to it. Different story when it came to going through with things though. Obviously, I don't recommend this route for everyone - but I thought that was the best option for me, until the last minute. I made my decision to go ahead with the pregnancy.
Of course, there are opportunity costs of having a child - the travelling plans are one of them. You'll struggle to do anything spontaneously etc etc. (the list goes on) - but if you want to know whether the reward you get back from a lo compenstates for that, then I can only say 100% yes. It's not so much the things you can't do, it's the things you want to do once you have a lo. Your priorities change - and not only because they have to, but also becuase you want them to - even if you don't realise it at the time. Sorry if I 've waffled on - I hope I've made some sense

Hi Rose. Hope your feeling better now. Bumping for you.