Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Birth clubs

Connect with mums-to-be with similar due dates to share experiences and support.

See all MNHQ comments on this thread

anyone pregnant and over 40?

176 replies

teejay · 11/06/2007 13:40

There must be a few of us?

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
hedgepig · 28/03/2008 18:23

hi KAZ how was the flat?
I had my scans yesterday, the nucal was fine (1.6mm and we could see the nasal bine) so I feel a lot less stressed. I burst into tears with relief afterwards which must have freaked the other people in the waiting room. How is everyone ?

Kaz1967 · 29/03/2008 16:20

I absolutely loved the flat as much for the location as anything else they have not heard back from the seller though about my offer trying not to get my hopes up I do have to sell this place as well as have offer accepted.

Really glad the scan results were good

hedgepig · 30/03/2008 11:20

hope it all works out. I keep having the move or build an extension dilemma financially it makes more sense to extend but we have noisy neighbours (well their dogs really) whihc are driving me potty. I

Countingthegreyhairs · 30/03/2008 11:26

just wanted to say that I love this thread!!

dd1 at 38

still trying for no.2 at 44 ....

all your posts give me hope!!

Countingthegreyhairs · 30/03/2008 11:27

forgot to say ... good luck everyone with your pregnancies ...

hedgepig · 30/03/2008 11:33

hi countingthegreyhairs there is an "over 40s" thread on the ttc topic if you haven't seen it, it seems quite busy at the moment and there are lots of lovley people on it. Good luck, there is always hope fingers crossed for you.

Kaz1967 · 30/03/2008 13:28

Countingthegreyhairs I can only suggest give up trying and just enjoy it that's how this happened it is 15 years since I last was pregnant and was trying for much of the last 10 wasn't until I gave up decided to move on and make positive decisions about my future this happy accident happened. Good luck

Countingthegreyhairs · 30/03/2008 14:35

Hi Hedgepig and Katz - thanks for your posts - sorry to hi-jack teejay!! Hello everyone else!

Hedgepig (great name btw) thanks for reminder - I think I have seen that thread before but as I'm only on this site intermittently I tend to forget where I've lurked/posted - will have a look, thanks again!!

Katz - can really identify with your post - congratulations!! I was determined not to live a life "on hold/in limbo" but very difficult for it not to dominate one's thoughts every month. What a great outcome for you! As I'm getting very much to the edge of what is possible, I am getting a bit more resigned and 'que sera sera' about it all ... feel very blessed to have had 1 dd ... a sibling for her would be terrific though!

Good luck everyone. I know it all does seem scarier/more risky as we age but it's great to see so many positive stories here ....

Good luck for Tuesday Toomanystuffedbears!!

riddyha · 31/03/2008 08:37

Hi everyone,

Not been around for a while as we've been on holiday (Red Sea Coast. ...lovely).

I'm 16 weeks today and can't believe how quickly it's going.

Had my Nuchal Scan a few weeks ago now and it gave the risk of Downs as 1:312, which I was really pleased about as it was 1:64 initailly based on age alone. We've decided not to go for amnio, so no more scans or checks now until week 20. Seems a long time to wait from week 12.

Hedgepig, glad your nuchal scan went well.

Went and bought two pairs of maternity jeans yesterday, they're really comfortable so may start wearing them straight away even though I can still fit in my normal jeans (just!).

When is it OK to start buying baby stuff? I don't want to start too early as it seems like tempting fate?

Kaz1967 · 01/04/2008 22:38

Way hey offer on house has been accepted all I have to do is sell this place now and finish this year of the college course So much to do so little time

hedgepig · 02/04/2008 13:13

well done Kaz I hope you can sell your place quickly (with as little stress as possible). What are you studying?

Riddyha my nucal results were pertty much the same as your (1 in 70 down to 1 in 400 ) but I still can't relax I'm just so paranoid. My ds didn't have the best of starts and I think this is making me over anxious about this pregnancy, I have got to relax.

Kaz1967 · 02/04/2008 21:32

I am doing an access to higher education course part time so over 2 years its A2 equivalent Psychology this year with core maths and english. Year out then re start up north doing Biology (hope to do chemistry GCSE in year baby is born but will have to see) and either combines science or Maths.

Aim is to do Zoology at Uni afterwards either to work in a zoo and do bugs beetles etc or small mammals (have a real thing about lemurs at the mo as well as mice, mole rats....) or work in conservation

hedgepig · 04/04/2008 16:55

that sounds really good all that studying must keep you really busy. My DH was a sea bird ecologist until he retrained to do computer programming. I was a biochemist but now sit in an office all day getting product registrations for agrochemicals.

I am stating to get my energy back at last, I see to be less sick that with my ds so maybe this one s a girl?

Kaz1967 · 09/04/2008 23:33

Hello everyone had a bit of a couple of days tired and really hacked off.

Had stomach pains early hours Tues morning assumed it was just wind from IBS because that is what it felt like tried everything inc a bath at 4am nothing helped could still feel little on moving so was pretty sure they were ok. Had an appointment with GP in morning anyway and he was lovely had a prod took a we sample and sent it off although nothing in it when tested Found the little horrors heart beat first time so I am very impressed no one else has. Said to ring him or hospital if got I decided to toddle off for a short walk and ended up at the zoo thinking if it was wind walking would shift it.

Home early evening still feeling sore so went to bed woke up no better and decided to ring hospital who obviously wanted me to go in and my lovely neighbour took me in. Doc thinks on of my fibroids has over grown and is dying and that is what hurts it will pain will stop in a few days but until then it's just pop pills. CDS were lovely but busy the ward they took me to after 1am was crap. She told me initially that I was not written up for PRN analgesia as well as regular stuff when I asked for it she then informed me it was opiate based and did I really want it well so is bloody codeine and yes I want it I am in pain and the obstetric doc has prescribed it.

And from then on it went down hill never slept other than a doze from 4am to 5.50 when some idiots alarm went off so I gave up and went and had a shower. Must have missed to doc by seconds when I was actually eating breakfast no one tried to look for me or tell me they had bloody been. They wanted bloods and a urine sample which I I had given them the evening before and my GP had sent one off already then I sat around waiting thinking I was waiting for a doc, asked about this at 11 but my midwife was off having a break and would come and see me when she got back well she did not. Had lunch and asked again pointed out I had left phone at home in rush to get there, was not expecting to stay in had no clean clothes, no one actually knew I had been admitted.

They eventually came to tell me the docs had been but did not bother to talk to me !!! And considering I was in there for observation no one had been to ask if the analgesia was actually bloody working or done any obs or anything since I was in CDS no one actually came to check I had eaten or was ok. No one even noticed I had been crying or was getting up set.

Anyway as I have ranted on a bit a lot less money in my purse (phone ate it and did not even get through) tears and threatening to leave unless the doctor came to see me they eventually turned up at 4.30 did not finish writing up my meds until the pharmacy had closed so no meds to take home and midwife tried to make me stay another night no bloody way I need some sleep and the bloody cat needed some food. Yet again they seem to fail to realise no one actually knows I am here and I have no way of contacting anyone (they would not let me use there bloody phone even to ring my community midwife to ask her to pass on a message to my neighbour who could have a fed the cat and b got my phone brought in so I could at least feel in contact with the world. She did not want me to get the bus home (had £1 in my purse). Free bus finished by the time I escaped so I ended up walking the half mile into town to get some money out (she would love that) stupid thing is the girl opposite was in a similar position although she did have her mobile and her family knew she was in and they sent her home in a Taxi because she lived in Weston not me cos I lived in Bristol.

Had a sleep but now I am awake an just over tired. Never ever are they going to get me on that bloody ward again.

Sorry that's a little long tomorrow is another day

hedgepig · 10/04/2008 20:06

KAZ honey! BIG HUG I just read your message. It sounds awful, How are you feeling today? Is the pain any better?

Kaz1967 · 10/04/2008 20:17

Just needed to let off steam last night so much calmer today still in a lot of pain some of the time but pain on the whole is controlled tramadol and codeine are great but think the good nights sleep waking up without back pain, controlling when I take my painkillers, not feeling stressed, and knowing what it is that is not a threat to the bump and that it is only likely to last 5 days really helps.

All my posts of late have been rather me me me so I hope everyone else is ok

hedgepig · 10/04/2008 20:22

I'm glad you feel a bit better if not totally well, what happend to the fibroid once it dies? does it get readsorbed?.
I find hospitals such strange places I have only had to stay in once after ds was born but we were there 10 days and I just felt so powerless and just at the beck and call of the system.
so longs as you are OK that is all that matters.

Kaz1967 · 10/04/2008 21:08

I understand it shrivels and can calcify sometimes they are known as "womb stones", some drop off thankfully mine are all external (yep have another 3 which could play silly buggers LOL) so if they do should cause no pregnancy problems.

I am an ex nurse I loath hospitals and make a very bad patient, possibly because I know how things should work and expect care carried out as I would do it. I felt so out of control yesterday and I know how the system works. Looking back I wonder if I got the treatment I did because it says nurse on my notes, it is sadly common that midwives and nurses do sometimes feel threatened when caring for someone also in the profession. I possibly did not help because they were not able to fob me off had I not known about the drugs I was prescribed they would have persuaded me not to take the tramadol left me in pain, they also would have bullied me into staying that one of the results was caused by infection when I know dam well that a raised CRP is also a maker of inflammation/tissue breakdown which is what is happening to this fibroid an as it was the only thing that was abnormal in my blood results it was the most probably cause.

Sometimes having that extra knowledge is not a help at all you can sometimes know more than is helpful and it scares those who should be caring for you I saw it when I worked you never think it will happen to you though. Just think they are no as confident in their practice as I am/was.

I must stop winging LOL

hedgepig · 12/04/2008 10:02

I have my triple tests results this morning combined with the NT scan results the risk od Downs or spina bifida is now 1 in 2700 so I am happy with that.

KAZ how are you feeling today?

Kaz1967 · 12/04/2008 12:17

really pleased about your risk that is so low for someone of our age

I am feeling alot better than Tues Wed or Thurs and hardly touching pain killers Now on antibiotics too (I am going to start rattling soon) my urine sample grew something took 3 days to do so and all my blood work was ok other than one thing that is as likely to be related to the stupid fibroid so it's probably a contaminant. As I am asymptomatic if I was not pregnant we would wait and see but being pregnant erring on the side of safety

hedgepig · 12/04/2008 12:36

Yeh I feel pretty reassured. I told a couple of my colleagues on Friday so the cat is now out of the bag at work.
Glad to hear you are feeling better, it is really C**p what our bodies throw at us at times. Hopefully you won't get a repeat problem.

Kaz1967 · 21/04/2008 01:53

Hello everyone how are we all?

fruitbowl · 30/04/2008 20:06

Hello ladies. Not sure if I've said hi yet or not? Mind's gone already! I'm 7 weeks with DC#2 today and 40 next week! I have a DD who's 3 and lovely.

I've been having spotting for about 10 days and have had a scan at local EPAS last week. They saw sac & yolk but nothing else so have to go back on my blimmin birthday to see if fingers crossed they can see any signs of baby / heartbeat. I've got everything crossed that baby is still growing. I've felt rough as anything last few days with nausea so have bought some seabands and taking it as a good sign.

Hello Kaz (sorry to hear about your fibroids) and hedgepig and other lovelies. Hope to chat with you soon. Take care.

hedgepig · 01/05/2008 20:03

Hi fruitbowl nice to hear from you, were you on the conception thread? Anyway this thread is pretty quite at the moment but there is a much more lively one in Pregnancy "lookhere"

turkishdelightful · 11/08/2008 16:55

I'm nearly 41 and totally traumatised by the fact that I'm pregant, now in week 11. I had a m/c 6 years ago and had given up on the whole idea of having kids with some relief. This certainly wasn't planned. I'm not adding my name above until I've done 12 weeks and had a scan.

Any 40+ mothers to be on their first pregnancy? Do I have to pay for a nuchal scan?