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Are my feelings of fear, dread, anxiety normal?

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Smor87 · 11/06/2018 14:39

Hi,
I'm 7+6 and the last two/three weeks have been hell.
I have spoken to various people about how I am feeling and they have all assured me it's normal to have ups and downs and freak-out moments during pregnancy but how I'm feeling does not feel right..... I have lost sight of every reason why I wanted this, I have no maternal instincts whatsoever (I did before, strongly) and now I'm strongly considering pursuing other options.... Please don't judge me - I just feel so irresponsible for not considering all of the things I am now e.g. how my life will change, how financially we will struggle, how I will have to put another first when I struggle with MH issues (id previously been self medicating with weed and cigarettes so stopped them when I found out at 3 weeks). I don't think I can do this.

I wake up every morning freaking out, I don't have the happy moments (other than when I am distracted and forget I'm pregnant) and I don't want to bring a baby into this world that isn't 100% wanted. I really wish I had written a list of why I wanted this as I have lost the desire completely...
Hopefully someone will appreciate this isn't easy to talk about but I think it's ok to be selfish if actually you are thinking about someone else too...

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Smor87 · 11/06/2018 14:40

I should probably add that I had been diagnosed with endometriosis so I was always told I would struggle and it may not happen for me. It only took me 3 months of trying so I am also aware it may be the shock of being actually being able to!!

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Smor87 · 12/06/2018 08:09

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LawDegreeBarbie · 12/06/2018 08:14

Did you want this previous to it happening? Did you plan any details about how it may work? Not specific details but are you sure this is what you wanted?

laura6032 · 16/06/2018 08:20

What your feeling is normal, I worried about all the same things, then was terrified that that they were going to let me leave the hospital with a new born baby, I knew nothing about looking after a baby, can't afford it, I was so sick.
Believe me it's normal, your anxious and panicking, try find a focus, or something to be excited about, plan the nursery or get a book of baby names.
If you've wanted this for so long, and end it now you'll probably have more regrets. You will be stronger than you think when you see your baby x

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